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daylay7:


I wished you can explain further on point of yours. I think it is intriguing.

Sorry
No time for that.
No offense.

ruggedtimi:
she didnt cheat because she wants to get back at u...bt she has been cheating even way before u cheated. So she is using getting back at u as an excuse.i am sure she is from *mo state

no she's from Anambra

Eagba:
no she's from Anambra

all na the same....an*mbra, *mo and ab*a

ruggedtimi:
all na the same....an*mbra, *mo and ab*a

actually she's from Ibadan

Eagba:
actually she's from Ibadan

dey play...bt i know she is definitely frm the east...and u re not the op

The truth is no woman forgives cheating. Just like the vivid presentation the husband gave of his wife's cheating, women feel the same too the only difference is women tend to distract themselves and focus on the kids why still in the relationship,yes they are that emotionally intelligent and of course society normalizes and downplay men's infidelity.
But trust me, if you want to kill the love, peace, friendship and normality in your marriage, cheat on your wife. No matter how much you try to patch your marriage will never be the same. You become a public property to her and there will be limit to how far she can go for you in life.

As for payback cheating, lol it's just opportunity to cheat and be half right. Complete waste of time, risk and emotions in my perspective. You are just doing yourself In the long run it won't heal you but darken you. This applies to both men and women.
If you can't forgive, walk out! Don't deceive yourself.

Persephone1:
The truth is no woman forgives cheating. Just like the vivid presentation the husband gave of his wife's cheating, women feel the same too the only difference is women tend to distract themselves and focus on the kids why still in the relationship,yes they are that emotionally intelligent and of course society normalizes and downplay men's infidelity.
But trust me, if you want to kill the love, peace, friendship and normality in your marriage, cheat on your wife. No matter how much you try to patch your marriage will never be the same. You become a public property to her and there will be limit to how far she can go for you in life.

As for payback cheating, lol it's just opportunity to cheat and be half right. Complete waste of time, risk and emotions in my perspective. You are just doing yourself In the long run it won't heal you but darken you. This applies to both men and women.
If you can't forgive, walk out! Don't deceive yourself.

U re one of the most intelligent girls on this platform and I ire u. U were making sense until u talked about leaving.
See my dear, marriage became nonsense and rubbish the day we started this options of leaving or quitting. People no longer put efforts to make their marriage work. They no longer fight for their marriage. They no longer try to change and become a better person. It's pathetic my dear

lordnkem000:

U re one of the most intelligent girls on this platform and I ire u. U were making sense until u talked about leaving.
See my dear, marriage became nonsense and rubbish the day we started this options of leaving or quitting. People no longer put efforts to make their marriage work. They no longer fight for their marriage. They no longer try to change and become a better person. It's pathetic my dear

By they i will like to assume you meant women because literally women make the whole efforts in keeping marriage together, some men do too but it's not common. The reason most marriages fail and break up is because women aren't putting that extra effort anymore which i won't blame them for because it's TIRING. Fighting for who doesn't want to be won, enduring emotional abuse, doing all to create and maintain a home with someone who doesn't see anything wrong in bringing third party, building while the other party is destroying. And the in-laws, society, people.... Lol nahhhhhh marriage takes a toll on a woman who is in it alone. I don't blame women for not investing in marriages anymore after all they are not their husbands' blood according to most men.

Everyone has a deal breaker, for me it is cheating and to be honest I'm not sure if I can forgive it or let it go and pretend like nothing happened. It's not INTENTIONAL it's NATURAL for me. The image of the man's lips kissing another and his member in another's deepsea will always flash through my mind whenever we are together. I love my man pure and chaste same way I am, whatever he had done in the past remains there when with me . And cheating to me also mean "You weren't enough, you are not worth growing with so I find another" . That is betrayal . I really doubt if I can forgive a cheating partner. It cuts too deep for me.

So if any other woman/ man feels same, I'd be hypocritical to think or encourage him or her to stay. If you want a lasting marriage, don't do what you don't want others to do to you.

You have said it all ,You are blessed . I dont cheating in Marriage but for me am getting a divorce . I will show it to her fae that am done with the marriage .

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

Persephone1:
By they i will like to assume you meant women because literally women make the whole efforts in keeping marriage together, some men do too but it's not common. The reason most marriages fail and break up is because women aren't putting that extra effort anymore which i won't blame them for because it's TIRING. Fighting for who doesn't want to be won, enduring emotional abuse, doing all to create and maintain a home with someone who doesn't see anything wrong in bringing third party, building while the other party is destroying. And the in-laws, society, people.... Lol nahhhhhh marriage takes a toll on a woman who is in it alone. I don't blame women for not investing in marriages anymore after all they are not their husbands' blood according to most men.

Everyone has a deal breaker, for me it is cheating and to be honest I'm not sure if I can forgive it or let it go and pretend like nothing happened. It's not INTENTIONAL it's NATURAL for me. The image of the man's lips kissing another and his member in another's deepsea will always flash through my mind whenever we are together. I love my man pure and chaste same way I am, whatever he had done in the past remains there when with me . And cheating to me also mean "You weren't enough, you are not worth growing with so I find another" . That is betrayal . I really doubt if I can forgive a cheating partner. It cuts too deep for me.

So if any other woman/ man feels same, I'd be hypocritical to think or encourage him or her to stay. If you want a lasting marriage, don't do what you don't want others to do to you.

I love all u said and u are 💯 right.
But u see, even our forefathers cheated and some even had to pick a 2nd wife and etc, somehow they settled and peace remained. The woman is the pillar of all relationships and marriages, if she falls apart everything falls apart too. I don't agree a woman should stay with a man who doesn't want her anymore, but I think if he's willing to work things out, she should put efforts too to do same if not more. Women of today give up easily on their marriages, maybe because of being wood by other guys in their dms and fake promises but truth is no man will marry u after u leave ur husband, the percentage is lower than 5%. Cheating is wrong and I condemn it totally, but my dear it shouldn't be a basis for any woman to abandon her marriage or stop giving enough efforts. Another woman will gladly take ur place if u leave and ur kids will suffer, I am a proof of that today with my dad. If he isn't beating u, abusing u and etc, if he's providing for u and protecting u. Try to give him a chance to make it up to u. A man is logical, women are emotional. Cheating is different in both sexes. If a man cheats, he returns home, if a woman cheats, she's lost in the emotions and ion, she might get pregnant for the accomplice, alot happens when a woman cheats. The home ia never the same. I hope I've convinced u a little

lordnkem000:

I love all u said and u are 💯 right.
But u see, even our forefathers cheated and some even had to pick a 2nd wife and etc, somehow they settled and peace remained. The woman is the pillar of all relationships and marriages, if she falls apart everything falls apart too. I don't agree a woman should stay with a man who doesn't want her anymore, but I think if he's willing to work things out, she should put efforts too to do same if not more. Women of today give up easily on their marriages, maybe because of being wood by other guys in their dms and fake promises but truth is no man will marry u after u leave ur husband, the percentage is lower than 5%. Cheating is wrong and I condemn it totally, but my dear it shouldn't be a basis for any woman to abandon her marriage or stop giving enough efforts. Another woman will gladly take ur place if u leave and ur kids will suffer, I am a proof of that today with my dad. If he isn't beating u, abusing u and etc, if he's providing for u and protecting u. Try to give him a chance to make it up to u. A man is logical, women are emotional. Cheating is different in both sexes. If a man cheats, he returns home, if a woman cheats, she's lost in the emotions and ion, she might get pregnant for the accomplice, alot happens when a woman cheats. The home ia never the same. I hope I've convinced u a little

Logic like this is why women are losing interest in marriages, they have tested all your reasons and realize it doesn't hold water in modern world.
Until both parties decide to do what's best for one another to remain married then we will continue to have break ups in marriages.

Talks don't do it anymore, action matters. Everything you wrote up there are nothing but fears to women still not realities. Be a good man and a faithful husband, it's not that hard.

I don't need convincing like i said, it's not intentional but natural. I'd be a fool to lie to myself.

Persephone1:
Logic like this is why women are losing interest in marriages, they have tested all your reasons and realize it doesn't hold water in modern world.
Until both parties decide to do what's best for one another to remain married then we will continue to have break ups in marriages.

Talks don't do it anymore, action matters. Everything you wrote up there are nothing but fears to women still not realities. Be a good man and a faithful husband, it's not that hard.

I don't need convincing like i said, it's not intentional but natural. I'd be a fool to lie to myself.

Look around u today, girls are naked everywhere, on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, Facebook reels, etc. Men see all these things and it affects our psychology and it makes us want to have a taste, not because we don't love our wife or want to quit. Girls of nowadays have destroyed our society and made sex so cheap. This is different from men and how men think.
I love ur points, but I just think u re not being fair with today's reality.
It's almost impossible for a man to get married to one woman or be faithful to his wife in today's reality. U either re fighting to survive the bad government or fighting the moral decadence of todays girls on every platforms

Jeon:
This is what she felt and imagined all those years. She mirrored back your reflection.


Your marriage is no longer there for years!!!!.
Get a divorce and move on, this is what you gets if you can't appreciate what you have.



This is a tit for tat.
You are lucky she showed you on time, cuz the payback are normally when the man is weak in financial, physical or health aspects.

So silly of you.

Then when is the right payback time for a cheating wife? I recommend instant expulsion so she will never get a chance to ister to payback to anyone for sins she equally committed but managed to cover her own tracks.

Jeon:


What home?
So funny. You think she cared about that?.
There's no home right from the day cheated.

Who then told you she did not start cheating first?

The woman is so disgusting for doing that since the husband has apologized to her and never to do it again.She has lost the respect totally...

N!geri@n M£N are Uselezz..... All of Them

lordnkem000:

Look around u today, girls are naked everywhere, on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, Facebook reels, etc. Men see all these things and it affects our psychology and it makes us want to have a taste, not because we don't love our wife or want to quit. Girls of nowadays have destroyed our society and made sex so cheap. This is different from men and how men think.
I love ur points, but I just think u re not being fair with today's reality.
It's almost impossible for a man to get married to one woman or be faithful to his wife in today's reality. U either re fighting to survive the bad government or fighting the moral decadence of todays girls on every platforms

The problem is men can't control themselves.
They wanna have s*x with any lady with a big booty, with a big breast.
An underage girl walking around in shorts, you wanna have a taste. Does that even sounds like an excuse?
Living in a white man land, they dress freely with any part of their body out. Cuz they don't cover their body the way you want, you wanna have a taste?
You gotta focus on what you wanna do, not be influenced by whatever you see. Even tho you know it's wrong, you still wanna have a taste,cuz you like what you see?
Until when are you gonna keep wanting to have a taste? Until there is no one you haven't have a taste of.
Men's talk like women don't have a feeling. Who said only men are influenced by what they see? Women are also influenced. But a woman won't wanna lose her face, she don't wanna bring shame to her children, by them being called " wayward kids".
A woman thinks all that, and try too keep her family dignity. But men, you don't even think like that. You go on like" I still love her, I just wanna have a taste of something new". Does that sounds realistic? After being married, you wanna try something new? That's a good way too put it.

Justkatty:
Sorry
No time for that.
No offense.

Lolz.
Non taken!

lordnkem000:

Look around u today, girls are naked everywhere, on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, Facebook reels, etc. Men see all these things and it affects our psychology and it makes us want to have a taste, not because we don't love our wife or want to quit. Girls of nowadays have destroyed our society and made sex so cheap. This is different from men and how men think.
I love ur points, but I just think u re not being fair with today's reality.
It's almost impossible for a man to get married to one woman or be faithful to his wife in today's reality. U either re fighting to survive the bad government or fighting the moral decadence of todays girls on every platforms

When I read submissions like this I wonder if at no point do writers realize the mental image they paint of men. Here you are presenting men as mindless zombies with no control over what they see or their testosterone. If I were to be a man reading your response, I'd cover my face in shame sobbing underneath. C'mon! You can do better!
Even before the advent of social media, men have always been sexually randy and unable.

Most men do not need to see flesh before they start wondering how deep or sweet getting intimate with a lady will be. This explains the child rape, office harassment, fornication on pulpit in reckless abound in our society today. Just act or look feminine, guys will come. It's why gays exist.

You make it sound like Men get as much attention as women get? If any gender is to blame the other it should be women blaming guys for not been able to keep off. Even Nuns in robes get hit on!

Persephone1:
The truth is no woman forgives cheating. Just like the vivid presentation the husband gave of his wife's cheating, women feel the same too the only difference is women tend to distract themselves and focus on the kids why still in the relationship,yes they are that emotionally intelligent and of course society normalizes and downplay men's infidelity.
But trust me, if you want to kill the love, peace, friendship and normality in your marriage, cheat on your wife. No matter how much you try to patch your marriage will never be the same. You become a public property to her and there will be limit to how far she can go for you in life.

As for payback cheating, lol it's just opportunity to cheat and be half right. Complete waste of time, risk and emotions in my perspective. You are just doing yourself In the long run it won't heal you but darken you. This applies to both men and women.
If you can't forgive, walk out! Don't deceive yourself.

God bless you

Persephone1:
By they i will like to assume you meant women because literally women make the whole efforts in keeping marriage together, some men do too but it's not common. The reason most marriages fail and break up is because women aren't putting that extra effort anymore which i won't blame them for because it's TIRING. Fighting for who doesn't want to be won, enduring emotional abuse, doing all to create and maintain a home with someone who doesn't see anything wrong in bringing third party, building while the other party is destroying. And the in-laws, society, people.... Lol nahhhhhh marriage takes a toll on a woman who is in it alone. I don't blame women for not investing in marriages anymore after all they are not their husbands' blood according to most men.

Everyone has a deal breaker, for me it is cheating and to be honest I'm not sure if I can forgive it or let it go and pretend like nothing happened. It's not INTENTIONAL it's NATURAL for me. The image of the man's lips kissing another and his member in another's deepsea will always flash through my mind whenever we are together. I love my man pure and chaste same way I am, whatever he had done in the past remains there when with me . And cheating to me also mean "You weren't enough, you are not worth growing with so I find another" . That is betrayal . I really doubt if I can forgive a cheating partner. It cuts too deep for me.

So if any other woman/ man feels same, I'd be hypocritical to think or encourage him or her to stay. If you want a lasting marriage, don't do what you don't want others to do to you.

This is a perfect opinion for me and a lot of people. You are truly intelligent and u just earn a follower.

God bless you more with wisdom

Sheistoopretty:
N!geri@n M£N are Uselezz..... All of Them

You are sure you will get married.

Little21:

The problem is men can't control themselves.
They wanna have s*x with any lady with a big booty, with a big breast.
An underage girl walking around in shorts, you wanna have a taste. Does that even sounds like an excuse?
Living in a white man land, they dress freely with any part of their body out. Cuz they don't cover their body the way you want, you wanna have a taste?
You gotta focus on what you wanna do, not be influenced by whatever you see. Even tho you know it's wrong, you still wanna have a taste,cuz you like what you see?
Until when are you gonna keep wanting to have a taste? Until there is no one you haven't have a taste of.
Men's talk like women don't have a feeling. Who said only men are influenced by what they see? Women are also influenced. But a woman won't wanna lose her face, she don't wanna bring shame to her children, by them being called " wayward kids".
A woman thinks all that, and try too keep her family dignity. But men, you don't even think like that. You go on like" I still love her, I just wanna have a taste of something new". Does that sounds realistic? After being married, you wanna try something new? That's a good way too put it.

You can't compare the western live to here. Over there, sex in cheap and alot of children dont even know their fathers. Infact, that is the problem. Because we compare ourselves with the western world. Thats the reason why divorce is rampant today.

It is not usual for a woman to want to try something new while in a marriage. Once she start thinking of that, it means she has lost her love for her husband and the marriage. But this wasnot so in the olden days.

Persephone1:
When I read submissions like this I wonder if at no point do writers realize the mental image they paint of men. Here you are presenting men as mindless zombies with no control over what they see or their testosterone. If I were to be a man reading your response, I'd cover my face in shame sobbing underneath. C'mon! You can do better!
Even before the advent of social media, men have always been sexually randy and unable.

Most men do not need to see flesh before they start wondering how deep or sweet getting intimate with a lady will be. This explains the child rape, office harassment, fornication on pulpit in reckless abound in our society today. Just act or look feminine, guys will come. It's why guys exist.

You make it sound like Men get as much attention as women get? If any gender is to blame the other it should be women blaming guys for now been able to keep off. Even Nuns in robes get hit on!

All u do is absob women of blames and that make it partial, u re just not being fair.
Men we agree on our faults and weaknesses, but why can't you women do same. We need good women to marry, unfortunately, today's women are worse than Satan. Just 3% are actually better. I actually put u in that 3% because u have made a good impression of urself to me

almarthins:


This kind woman go kill a man without a trace.
She go still cheat again, and again. As she no fit forgive and that's how they get damaged.

Lol.. I swear ur very correct. Those who can't forgive are already serial cheats only they haven't been caught.. na cover up them dey. I used to know one like that. Before she met me she knew how I was but she's the revenge type and I knew from the get go. One time she loose guard and I caught her. Idiot said it was just a fling and she confessed to having flings with other guys before we met while she swore to me before then that she's been chaste for over a year 😂. Me when no send ur papa sef. Funny thing is she actually thinks I believed her BS. Some women cheat serially just that u haven't caught them. It's why I never give my heart to anyone of them.. Revenge my foot, they're just looking for opportunity to justify what they have been doing without ur knowledge 😁

lordnkem000:

All u do is absob women of blames and that make it partial, u re just not being fair.
Men we agree on our faults and weaknesses, but why can't you women do same. We need good women to marry, unfortunately, today's women are worse than Satan. Just 3% are actually better. I actually put u in that 3% because u have made a good impression of urself to me

Nice one

Little21:

The problem is men can't control themselves.
They wanna have s*x with any lady with a big booty, with a big breast.
An underage girl walking around in shorts, you wanna have a taste. Does that even sounds like an excuse?
Living in a white man land, they dress freely with any part of their body out. Cuz they don't cover their body the way you want, you wanna have a taste?
You gotta focus on what you wanna do, not be influenced by whatever you see. Even tho you know it's wrong, you still wanna have a taste,cuz you like what you see?
Until when are you gonna keep wanting to have a taste? Until there is no one you haven't have a taste of.
Men's talk like women don't have a feeling. Who said only men are influenced by what they see? Women are also influenced. But a woman won't wanna lose her face, she don't wanna bring shame to her children, by them being called " wayward kids".
A woman thinks all that, and try too keep her family dignity. But men, you don't even think like that. You go on like" I still love her, I just wanna have a taste of something new". Does that sounds realistic? After being married, you wanna try something new? That's a good way too put it.

That's exactly what am saying, many men think with their dicks instead of their heads, we recognize that flaws and I must tell u it's not right. This is why it's important we have a wife who's loyal and helps us to fight this temptations. Once a woman understands this, she will know how to make her marriage work. It's not easy. , marriage favors the woman and men has no benefits in it. We pay the dowry, pay the bride price, protect the woman, pay rents, pay school fees, stretch hands to the woman's family too. Take care of the bills at home, etc. All these favors the woman. Am yet to see what favors the man. So the least we expect is a loyal woman who's submissive and know her role, not a rival who bleeps around. Am not saying men should cheat, am saying the woman should understand the life of a man is so hard and complicated

Marynwachukwu21:
Nice one

Fine girl I see u

lordnkem000:

That's exactly what am saying, many men think with their dicks instead of their heads, we recognize that flaws and I must tell u it's not right. This is why it's important we have a wife who's loyal and helps us to fight this temptations. Once a woman understands this, she will know how to make her marriage work. It's not easy. , marriage favors the woman and men has no benefits in it. We pay the dowry, pay the bride price, protect the woman, pay rents, pay school fees, stretch hands to the woman's family too. Take care of the bills at home, etc. All these favors the woman. Am yet to see what favors the man. So the least we expect is a loyal woman who's submissive and know her role, not a rival who bleeps around. Am not saying men should cheat, am saying the woman should understand the life of a man is so hard and complicated

Wonderful,i sight you bro

Marynwachukwu21:
Wonderful,i sight you bro

Hope to chat u up tomorrow
Missed u today sha

daylay7:


Lolz.
Non taken!

Haha
You want to be a bone on my neck?

lordnkem000:

That's exactly what am saying, many men think with their dicks instead of their heads, we recognize that flaws and I must tell u it's not right. This is why it's important we have a wife who's loyal and helps us to fight this temptations. Once a woman understands this, she will know how to make her marriage work. It's not easy. , marriage favors the woman and men has no benefits in it. We pay the dowry, pay the bride price, protect the woman, pay rents, pay school fees, stretch hands to the woman's family too. Take care of the bills at home, etc. All these favors the woman. Am yet to see what favors the man. So the least we expect is a loyal woman who's submissive and know her role, not a rival who bleeps around. Am not saying men should cheat, am saying the woman should understand the life of a man is so hard and complicated

That's the kind of men I can never deal with. Since when we were young, we were thought to "think" and what do we use to think? We use our "brain". And since you doesn't think with your "brain" anymore, you prefer thinking with "something else" just stick with your thinking, and keep out.

2. A woman that's gonna understand and fight? Fight for who?
Marriage is for the both of you too do your best. And since you can't even do your best, just keep out.
Since the so called person you are trying to be with, can't seems to do the same for you and suddenly wanted to try "something new", you can as well move there completely and leave her life alone to someone who will choose her.


For the remaining words, am yet to understand Mens theory of, "marriage favors woman and doesn't favors man".
Here we get married to have kids and someone to love. But you guys talk like, the kids the wife have is hers alone..
She puts her life on line to have that kids, she may die in the process. Sometimes some woman have something like a little"mental issues" after giving birth. Your figure changes. You can't stay the same.
Marriage doesn't favor woman. It's just like a bond. Nothing else.
For doing all that, what the men can do is provide for the kids and the wife. And the woman is gonna be the one to watch after the kids. Just babysit a kid for a day, and you know women and men are going through the same thing.
And if you know marriage doesn't favors men, no need to get married. It's not a must. You can just do a contract with someone and take the child after he/she is born, and look after it yourself. There is absolutely no need to get married.
I don't know why you keep going into things that doesn't favors you. It's not a must.