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When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance.

Fastest way to kee yasef

If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

It's totally fine with me if a man wants to keep his balance private because that would mean that I also get to keep mine private as well...

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


Add yours

Bro… relax. You're acting like you showed her your bank app and she morphed into Thanos.

1. Not Every Woman is a Villain in a Netflix Drama
Not every woman is sitting there, rubbing her hands together like, “Once I see that last zero… he’s finished.”
Some just want to know if you can split dinner or afford to fix that one squeaky door in your apartment.

2. Financial Disclosure Isn't a Horror Film
You’re acting like telling her your balance is like summoning a demon.
It’s not an exorcism, it’s adulting. If you're dating someone seriously, finances will come up. Eventually, she’s gonna notice that your “savings plan” is just a jar labeled “DO NOT TOUCH (unless emergency snacks).”

3. Plot Twist: A Lot of Women Are Balling
2025 called—they said many women are earning their own bags and don’t need yours.
In fact, some of them are looking at your balance like:

“You know what? We’ll build… together.”
Or worse: “Sir, please leave the table. We don’t split bills under $10.”

4. You Might Just Have Trust Issues, Not Riches
If your has $1,287.43 and you're guarding it like it’s Fort Knox, maybe it's not women you don’t trust—it’s math.
Let’s not act like every woman’s a gold digger when there’s not enough gold to dig.

5. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
If you're always checking if someone’s after your wallet, you might miss someone who was after your heart.
Try attracting people who vibe with your energy—not just your income bracket. Because guess what? If she’s a real one, she’ll roll with you whether you’re ballin’… or budgeting.

In conclusion
Tell her your balance if you want. If she runs—she did you a favor. If she stays—you might’ve just found your MVP. Either way, the right one isn’t looking for the end of your … she’s looking to build with you.

Now go fix your online banking . Not because of her—because you probably forgot it again.

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1.
We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

From 1-7 all your points feel so on point! Kudos.
How many times av u been married to get all these knowledge tho?

Rubyjade:
Bro… relax. You're acting like you showed her your bank app and she morphed into Thanos.

Again, GBAM!!

Why is she not your friend? No 7 is wrong!

Baby mama sure

People will wake up and chunk whatever they feel in their head is the right guide to marriage.

As a realist I've always said; When it comes to humans, there's no guide to marriage or relationship.
Humans are extremely complex creature, unpredictable in nature. What you presumed is the right guide, might turn to be the worse...

Even God can't guarantee you a "successful marriage", the first marriage was conducted by God and God himself gave the woman to man... We all know who was responsible for the man fall.

.

Kundus to you @ Op

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Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

His d*ck.

Toor

Please my fellow nairalanders how can I post a topic for others to read

Ok

The biggest mistake a man can make in marriage us to marry the wrong person. HE IS FINISHED.
Every other thing from there goes downhill

Noted

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


Add yours

Based on my experience in marriage, no one formula can work in marriage, some men can actually practice these rules and the marriage will remain, others will do it may not go well with your partner.

Generally speaking, do what keep peace in your home dazzall.

When you don't look at character you make mistakes

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


Add yours

1 & 2 crashed my marriage..I was so good looking then that she was d one that even initiated d romance.. When i finally secured her,,i loose guard..my fitness gone when i started taking all sorts of drinks including ogogoro..lost my physique...Was tall,,dark n very handsome..That people complemented.. i noticed she doesn't introduce me to her friends like before again..To cut d story short,,she called me say she no dey do again oo from another state..

At the end what matters is for you to marry a woman that loves, a pious, lovely woman cut it all

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Omo, this one ehn.

My wife mistakenly saw my balance last week. Baba mi, I have not rested till now

Please guys please don't just scroll . please I beg you in the name of almighty GOD pls someone should please help me, my little sister and I we are starving. Please help us the last time we ate a good food was from our neighbor on Monday. Since then we have surviving on drinking garri and now the little garri that we use to have hope has finished. the little money I have I used it to pay for house rent so that we can at least have roof over our head. am pleading for help please, not for my sake but for kid sis please am a primary school teacher and a house painter, our mom is late and my dad has retired. No matter how little it will go a long way to help us. May GOD in heaven come to your aid as you have come to ours. amen

O.P.A.Y --- 7036398595

Op, kindly provide your marriage credentials to make the advice/post more credible.
I know lots of relationship/marriage counselors that in their personal lives have failed or tormentose relationships. Heck persin I know is on his 3rd official marriage (2 unofficial ones de), but na him give advice , infact him don write 2 books on marriage selling on amazon. Lol
Reasonably advice though.

Rubyjade:
Bro… relax. You're acting like you showed her your bank app and she morphed into Thanos.

1. Not Every Woman is a Villain in a Netflix Drama
Not every woman is sitting there, rubbing her hands together like, “Once I see that last zero… he’s finished.”
Some just want to know if you can split dinner or afford to fix that one squeaky door in your apartment.

2. Financial Disclosure Isn't a Horror Film
You’re acting like telling her your balance is like summoning a demon.
It’s not an exorcism, it’s adulting. If you're dating someone seriously, finances will come up. Eventually, she’s gonna notice that your “savings plan” is just a jar labeled “DO NOT TOUCH (unless emergency snacks).”

3. Plot Twist: A Lot of Women Are Balling
2025 called—they said many women are earning their own bags and don’t need yours.
In fact, some of them are looking at your balance like:

“You know what? We’ll build… together.”
Or worse: “Sir, please leave the table. We don’t split bills under $10.”

4. You Might Just Have Trust Issues, Not Riches
If your has $1,287.43 and you're guarding it like it’s Fort Knox, maybe it's not women you don’t trust—it’s math.
Let’s not act like every woman’s a gold digger when there’s not enough gold to dig.

5. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
If you're always checking if someone’s after your wallet, you might miss someone who was after your heart.
Try attracting people who vibe with your energy—not just your income bracket. Because guess what? If she’s a real one, she’ll roll with you whether you’re ballin’… or budgeting.

In conclusion
Tell her your balance if you want. If she runs—she did you a favor. If she stays—you might’ve just found your MVP. Either way, the right one isn’t looking for the end of your … she’s looking to build with you.

Now go fix your online banking . Not because of her—because you probably forgot it again.

Oga don't show your woman your Acct balance period! Even if she is Mary magdaline, Mary or angel that drop from heaven.