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Islandlady:
Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

Ur fellow gender are even in his defence. You come think say tomorrow, dem no go advice am to replace you?

almarthins:


You re wrong!
The guy is careless - don't overlook it. People like him will show no remorse for doing shameful act. Some times God go use a person mistake to send you a warning.

Na red flag be that, any man who feeds on pornographic content can never get sexual satisfaction with one woman. He will keep looking for women or girls to fit into his fantasy.

K

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I
I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

You are asking if you should leave him? LoL... You will be surprised to know that he will rather leave you than leave those contents of his... Same way many smokers will rather leave their woman than to stop smoking... So if you can't deal with it then get out of his life let him find someone that will be okay with it.. I am not ing him by the way... Just stating the obvious... Lol

Is he a boomer? Does anyone still porn at this day and age when he can just watch it online? Or Maybe he is addicted and watches it all day because it's just for a few minutes he wouldn't need to it

AllBlack:


The way you ladies throw the word RESPONSIBLE around. Once a man doesn't appear or behave just the way you want him, the word comes out.

As for that guy, just leave him and don't let him disgrace you with his life.
I don't know what a full grown man will be having porn stored on his phone and laptop for? that is extreme.
The horrible part is how careless he is with it. I mean... why should someone whose brain is functioning properly give a porn filled laptop to a child. Maybe he even did it on purpose to subtly GROOM the child.

His porn addiction might even be the least of your problem because you don't know what other stems and branches have grown from it.

You stop talking to him about it and RUN.

People like you who claim to be saints even do worse. I won't be surprised that you sneak into brothels at 11pm in the night to do #500 short time oloshos

Islandlady:
Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

People don't change at once, you don't expect to see things the way you see it just because you say it. All these boils than to upbringing, it will take time for him to understand it can also mar your relationship if u don't take time.

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to[b] be decent, responsible and disciplined[/b]
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

At the bolded
to be decent, responsible and disciplined.

Thats is your answer

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

If he can not take heed or even pretend to takw heed to such useful correction now... I pirry the future you will have with him

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Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

These your guy is a self-servicer,
Plus , be ready to marry a community penis

Even you should be ready to.bea sex 🎎

If your guy is above 30
Just know that he is sick

This kinda of man has no staying power

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

Your fiance is a pórno addict and he is enjoying his porn obsession. And you think he will just suddenly stop because you tell him to? Worst case scenario, he will do it secretly without you knowing.
If I were you, my main concern should be the type of pórno he watches. Because what he watches, he will do. If any gay or bisexual content dey there, my sister run oooo🏃🏾‍♂️

Islandlady:
Mehn like a finance, a man I want to spend the rest of my life with having leaked sex tapes of celebrities on his gadgets is not a problem in the relationship...what kind of man is that? Even when he gave his niece the laptop is not a problem?

Our society is gradually deteriorating

You did nothing wrong. I struggled with the issue in the past and I was open to my then GF about it and she assisted me in fighting the battle. If I were him, I would have been very appreciative of your action. It shows you genuinely care about my morals and that's a plus for me.

SUPERBLOOM:
Maybe if you quit begging with your alternates on nairaland you will be able to focus on privacy.
His laptop and whatever content is on it is his private business. Just because he gave you access to his laptop doesn't mean you own it.

That's a red flag. Whatever she does with that is now her business.

Your approach is wrong.

To delete his files is your first mistake. It's his personal computer, he has every right to store whatever there.


My advise;
Swallow your pride, go to his house, kneel down and beg for his forgiveness, and don't try that again.

Zonefree:
Your approach is wrong.

To delete his files is your first mistake. It's his personal computer, he has every right to store whatever there.


My advise;
Swallow your pride, go to his house, kneel down and beg for his forgiveness, and don't try that again.

Your sick for that advice

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

how old is he ?

RisenObinna:


You did nothing wrong. I struggled with the issue in the past and I was open to my then GF about it and she assisted me in fighting the battle. If I were him, I would have been very appreciative of your action. It shows you genuinely care about my morals and that's a plus for me.

Thank you for this

Memberclub:
how old is he ?

32

Islandlady:
I am not a begger like you and I don't have alternates...Thank God seun invented blocking

why u go delete Dem? Na trouble u dey look for.

Islandlady:
32

he's going to get tired of it soon enough.

Run ooo 🏃‍♀️

Funny moderation. I was banned for this comment

U can change him with
other ways u know

Islandlady:
Good day nairalanders

I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family including his mother...They all know me.

But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all

I could during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad

So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.

I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined
I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

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It's difficult for an adults to change and you definitely can't change him.
As regards sex stuffs, nobody is truly innocent. You can to weigh your options and see if you can put up with he's character for a long time.
I see a lot of ladies for example dating bad guys and thinking they can change him, its not possible.

dawnomike:
If he can not take heed or even pretend to takw heed to such useful correction now... I pirry the future you will have with him

Op wey money don blind her eyes. If not wetin go make such a young girl dey rush to get married. She doesn't even know the guy. Lmao she doesn't even appear mature enough for marriage.

Islandlady:
I am not a begger like you and I don't have alternates...Thank God seun invented blocking

Pls don't mind that pervert you quoted

Talk to him about it, cos pornography ruins sexual life of people.

Don't mind that clownish thing talking rubbish with you.

Block it

If you don't like it,end it

Your finance is learning new, new styles in go use dey knack you, when una marry