Kekereekun123:
i used to think guys in canada use to over exaggerate the dating situation in canada. Most Nigerian ladies here wont even give you eye or answer you if you are still a struggling migrant, took me time to get a job in my field unto covid. Suddenly they are now coming close.so what happens if i am laid off tomorrow for example. They will japa again abi. I no longer pity those ladies complaining of no husband in canada o. Na ojukokoro dey worry most, looking for a guy earning megabuck, living in a downtown condo with 2019 car
This is true to some extent
Until many of them are ready to lower their standards, they may stay single for long.
humilitypays:
Don't let people deceive you with their cry cry life, there is no country in Europe or even some Asia that Nigeria is better than when it comes to working and getting paid and availability of jobs to do.
Some lazy people complain that US is not rosy, they are just lazy and not ready to work.
Developed countries like US, UK, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, , , Netherlands, Norway, South Korea, Japan, Ireland, etc are not meant for lazy people who hate to work but love to party and live luxury life.
If you are hardworking and ready to work you can never be broke or complain when living on the aforementioned countries unlike Nigeria where lazy criminals with corrupt opportunities end up the richest while honest hardworking people end up poorest.
Abroad reward hardwork.
The only people that face some challenges abroad are those without legal papers to work legally or move around freely, but still they are far better than majority of Nigerian graduates roaming the streets without job and those working and earning peanut that cannot acquire them a decent car or a decent house to live.
So don't listen to most Nigerians abroad complaining, most of them are lazy, some have committed a lot of crime that spoilt their records so they cannot get legal job except they do crime or engage in illegal business deals
Kittex7:
Try and work for someone that's already making it big in the business to know how they monetize all this stuff. Personally I see online way of making money as second option in making money in real time. One must get one legit thing doing or selling to foot the bill till online stuff pays off. It's gradual process bro. You can't make it legitimately one day.
I do facebook, twitter and Instagram adverts for some small small companies and still yet I still engage myself in salary work because I can stay some months without getting a client to bring online ment contracts to my table.
See leave those motivational speakers bro. It's better you work on yourself and face the reality. Everyone can't be like Lalast.iclala
The easiest way to make money online is to teach people how to make money and that's what motivational speakers do
I am still searching for the moral of this your story.
So they told you that she won't live long If serious prayers wasn't made for her.
What stopped you from following through and making the prayers on her behalf man of god?
Instead you zoomed off to the next person and now that she is dead, you are here feeling yourself and probably rejoicing that you made the right decision.
Hope you know life isn't guaranteed and you too could drop dead anytime...
Abeg if anyone understood the moral of this pathetic story, the person should tell me
I'm with you on this. Very lame post. Some Christians just like making a mockery of the gospel.
The truth of the matter is Nigerians, for the most part, betrayed Abiola. When the millitary and their collaborators were deliberately refusing to handover, instead of standing up to them, we got divided along tribal lines, as usual, and let Abacha come and take over., for another five years of suffering.
The point is, most Nigerians did not consider democracy worth dying for. Maybe it is because we are a poor country,and if you get shot by the Mopol , who looks after your loved ones, but the truth is, we think that democracy only benefits the winner and his immediate family, not the nation as a whole. That's why most of us just sat down and watched as Abiola fought alone, with some 'mad' people for his mandate.
Even now, Nigerians don't get why we have to work towards a democratic government, which is why some 21 years after we got rid of our army rulers, we are still complaining of bad governance. Even now, the opposition to Buhari is just as sectional as the oppositon to GEJ was. Very few people are opposed to Buhari because he is not running the country well, most oppose him because of sectional or 'what they can benefit from'
Even now, people are arguing for restructuruing or secession based on what they will benefit, not on fairness or justice.
lol baba no kill me with laugh. To me nothing spectacular about am. The main thing wey I fancy about Toronto na the diversity. If I compare with outher cities wey I don stay, Toronto na the only place wey make me feel like na we we. Once you take out the diversity, Toronto go make you think say you just come Canada come hustle to pay house rent
It seems getting a rich man is your getting the best out of life.
Why is it that nigerian ladies see marrying a Rich man as the Ultimate? Why?
Una no fit make una own money and be happy?
Why are you always looking for who to touch your life rather than who you can impact their life.
The world is choked, filled and saturated with receivers of Love, gifts, money etc the world needs more Givers - givers of Love, money, gift etc
Why don't you think it this way - Be a good girl, be productive and try to make impact in the life of your partner. It looks more fulfilling than taking, taking, taking.
A lot of guys are out there looking for who to start life with, someone that can make impact in their life, someone that can rub their back so that they can rub your back too.
I think one of the unfortunate things that can happen to a man is been born in Nigeria.
The rich ones are endangered species being hunt down by any means by women while the poor ones are being overlooked and distanced from like plague.
Celepope:
I will be back to address this issue of loneliness of Nigerian ladies in diaspora
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Let me start. I may be out of point but you all should pardon me. Speaking from my observation of Nigerian ladies in America from my 10 years of living in the US, , many find it difficult to find husband because of many reasons thereby leading to depression and loneliness. First, many Nigerian guys in cities like Chicago, NY city and Houston are always searching for Nigerian ladies to grace their bed and many of them don't have a bearing. Secondly, many Nigerian ladies tend to be career driven especially those in hot pursuit of wanting to become Nurses to the extent of forgetting that they can also still date while pursuing their dreams. Many of them discover too late when they might have crossed into their 30s. I dated two in this category. Now they are both making money as Nurse Practitioners and they now discover that life is boring and lonely without a man (forget anything these fake feminists and their apologist might want to say). Many Nigerian ladies during their early years are always searching for already established guys in their careers and guys that make at least 6 figures. Without considering the facts that these guys are economic immigrant that have as their major goal the need to emancipate their family back home from their plight. Also many of the so-call guys don't have legal stay and these are the ones that mostly go to religious places of worship to scavenge for ladies to prey on forgetting that these ladies are wiser. Another factor that make these ladies not to find a man out there is because an average Nigerian lady in a place like the United states and i believe Canada tend to be saucy and lack manners. They feel they are better than an average girl back home. This is corroborated by even the way and manner this OP delivered her rebuttal. i.e such statement "Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport?" why does the OP think she is much exposed than the average Aisha, Bimbo or Ngozi in the streets of Nigeria? FYI Op you travelling out or living outside the country doesn't make you much exposed than an average girl back in Nigeria. I know ladies in Nigeria that can school you on things about Canada and they haven't even been to the international airport. My advice to ladies in Diaspora is that they should be lay back in their approach and set realistic goals in the kind of man they want. They should explore other race and people from perhaps other nationalities in Africa. They should also utilize social media in establishing s and if possible reconnect with friends and former classmates. Nobody knows where they can find true love. God help us all and you all should pardon my lengthy post. I don't even appreciate it.
Ayinke93:
You should know Nigerian men to overestimate their importance in the lives of women. See them wanking over the thought of their absence being the reason for the loneliness of someone who just started a new life a in far away country.some of them on that thread are even advicing the women to drop their imigration plans so as to be someone's wives.
They all sound very threatened at the thought of not being able to control a fellow human being. I really do not blame y'all, I blame the society that made you so entitled in the fist place. For the gender that claims to be superior, they worry too much about women and there choices and the thought of not being the center of a woman's life give them headaches.
If there's any woman here nursing the thought of travelling abroad, if that is was you solely desire, face it squarely and build yourself. When you are complete on your own, you'll find love on the way.
@whizqueen, you are doing an amazing job and I ire you alot. Working on starting my immigration process already, sadly everything had to wait for know. All the best to you in Canada.
No guy will consistently chase a girl for 2 years dear. The common thing is for guys to chase more than one girl with the hope that one or more will succumb to the pressure. Of course, these girls would assume they've got no 'competitors.' What guys do is to chase a girl, leave her for a while and then fall back later when they're done with some other girls.
This is it. If a girl believes a guy will chase only her for years then it shows how naive she is.
Wow. Thanks very much for coming back here to show appreciation. This means a lot to some of us. May God continue to bless you and your family as you set up firm root in this beautiful country of ours.
One of the things I've learnt over time while working, is to be one step ahead.
I once worked in a company where my line manager was a compete nut head. I saw the handwriting on the wall that I needed to leave. I fired up my cv ASAP and got an offer (way better offer than I was paid) and dropped my resignation letter. My line manager was shocked...I knew he would have fired me, or atleast recommended my sack, if I didn't take that drastic step of been 1 step ahead. Soon after I left, 2 other devs, were fired.
Everywhere I have worked in my short career, I've always tried to read moves, anticipate actions and moves, position myself in a way, no one will take me by surprise.
Well. Assuming you are coming in with a PR, depends on what skills you bring with you. Do you have a skill that is in demand like some IT skills? Do you need to sit for regulatory exams?
No doubt, Canada's good job market can be tough to break into due to competition and few job opportunities ( that the country brings in 300,000 immigrants per year). It can also be a very expensive country to live in, but one thing is certain, you will not starve. In the short term, there are plenty of survival jobs to keep you going.
You can also change careers if you so desire. There are many lucrative courses/careers you can explore. Just research what course you feel you would excel in, and check if it is demand in your province of choice. Target employers that offer descent wage/benefits. You don't want to get stuck with a student loan debt after studying a course with bad prospect. My employer just hired a smart 22 years old Nigerian recent grad of a regular 2 years instrumentation tech diploma from a community college here in Canada. Excluding bonus, starting wage is 90k. In 3 years, his salary would be 101k with yearly 2% increase till 2022. With OT, he is looking at atleast 150k per year. Interestingly, he doesn't even have a PR yet, he is currently on a pgwp.
My advice - Be adaptable, be agile, be ready to explore the country especially if you are young. Don't always follow the herd, dare to be different. There are many successful immigrants story. Check out the negative ones to see what you can learn from them. Also focus on the good ones, and check out the moves they made to achieve success.
Good luck.
In other news:
Follow/subscribe to Marina Esiri's YouTube channel. She offers excellent info (like weekly videos) about living in Canada for free. She is currently on a series about common mistakes immigrants make in Canada which I feel is beneficial.
I emphasized free because information that's freely shared on Nairaland or other social media are now being sold by some on twitter and facebook/Instagram.
I'd like to share my landing gist even though it is coming way too late. I came under the weather after my arrival but I'm perfectly fine now!
So I left Nigeria on the 5th of February. I had booked my flight on EgyptAir mobile app. It was very seamless. Perhaps too seamless because I began to wonder if that was all. I had to call a friend to ask if there was any other thing I was expected to do, lol. A day before my departure date, I got a mail from the airline instructing me to check in and change my sitting arrangement if required. Of course, I changed to window seats. Fast-forward to my departure date, I got to the airport 4 hours earlier. I was told my friend that came to see me off couldn't enter the airport building; only travelers were allowed to . Well, when we got to the entrance, I gave him my hand luggage to hold and he simply walked as if he was the one traveling. When it was my turn to enter, an officer stopped me and told me that only travelers were allowed in - to him, my friend was the actual traveler, lol. I told him I was traveling too and he asked to see my papers but stopped me halfway when he noticed I was boldly bringing them out. My luggage went through the scanning machine and my egusi container caught the attention of the officer on duty. She asked me to bring it out, I did and everyone laughed about it. This was the only time my luggage was opened.
Already inside the airport, I proceeded to weigh my luggage and just like I anticipated, I had excess kg. Funny thing is that the stuff I was taking to my sister who stays in the US primarily ed for the excess kg. After a long drama with the young man in charge, we decided to settle out of court and I moved on to check in the luggage. It was both funny and annoying when the lady at the check-in counter said to me, "bro, I chose windows seats for you on both flights". What!? Seats that I chose myself? Anyway, she didn't get more than a cold "thank you".
The flight from Lagos to Cairo was smooth and uneventful. When we got to Cairo, I realized most of the people on-board with me were actually not going to Canada. I was on my own, I didn't know where next to go. The janitor I tried asking for direction simply said "no English!". While walking around thinking of how I'd write the story of a young man who got lost in Egypt, I saw an elderly lady from Middle East who was also looking for the waiting place for those taking the connecting flight to Canada. Actually, she was the one that called my attention and suggested we stay together since we had the same quest. Like a strict mother, she said "follow me! We must stay together, it's better that way!". I found that funny; I should be guiding her and not the other way round. Anyway, I'm glad I followed her cause she had a lot of stories to tell; a good way to time.
It was another smooth flight from Egypt to Canada. On arrival, I queued with Non-Canadians. When it got to my turn, the officer asked how much I had with me, did the stamping and said congratulations. I was going to thank her when I noticed she stamped wrong arrival dates on both papers - 5th instead of 6th. I called her attention to it, she apologized and corrected them with a pen (I still don't know the implication of this error). I went ahead to do my SIN and afterwards, went to pick up my luggage and this was where I got the shocker of my life! I couldn't find one of my bags! I quickly reported this to an airport official who took me around the premises looking for the missing bag. We eventually found it on the floor isolated from the rest of the bags. I took a closer look and saw that it was torn at both ends; apparently, it was dropped on the floor. My beans container was also smashed. I gathered everything like that and moved on. There was no way I'd let these events spoil my Canadian excitement! I went ahead to change a few dollar notes, changed into my useless winter attire, ordered Uber and went straight to my Airbnb apartment. I don't need to mention that I littered the entire airport waiting hall with beans as I was walking.
I opened a bank and got my SIM card the same day - I did both in a mall a walking distance away from my Airbnb location. I could not get a phone cause the shops there don't take down payment; I had to got to Yorkdale the next day to buy one. I might still leave the province so I left drivers' license and health insurance card for now. As they say, it's really not difficult to settle in a developed city.
Thank you guys for everything!
Welcome to Canny. May the land favour you. Your story reminded me of my landing experience. I could not find one of my bags and it was returned 8 days later. Ethiopian airline.lol.
An entry point into IT for non IT auditors is typically the GRC space (Governance, Risk and Compliance), a subset of Cybersecurity.
One pathway:
Start in the audit area you are experienced in (financial, operational, etc), public firm (big 4 preferably; helps you stand out; facilitates entry to industry) or industry (multinational preferably; more likely to have IT auditors; more scope for getting where you want, great for your resume).
Get CISA, CISM done. AddIng in CISSP will help you go far in GRC and Cybersecurity.
Build rapport and credibility within your team, with your team lead, with the IT area. In other words, do a crazy good job at everything and do it with courtesy, professionalism, diplomacy and a good attitude. Take on any available IT aspects of your audit scope, which will be basic but nevertheless help you build knowledge and start building skill set. Introduce yourself to the CIO and CISO. Do a great job whenever you interface with them. However, respect the org structure. Don’t go over your own boss’ head or behind his/her back. Don’t let your boss hear from the CIO about your career goals. Also, don’t start talking about your gray eagerness to switch teams from day one. Your boss hired you for his / her team. Build credibility first, and your boss will you, because if you go far, they will also look good.
As you do your job, look for opportunities to either do secondments in IT/ GRC, or with the IT auditors, or put forward that kind of suggestion to your team. If you can make an internal move, that will likely be an easier entree than applying externally.
Keep talking about your goals and the exams you’ve ed, so that the right people know (, you do the talking at the right time, to the right people). Keep doing a great job on your projects and most of all, keep being a great person to work with. You don’t have to be a super skilled, highly experienced IT auditor to start in the GRC space especially since there’ll be an expectation that you’ll be learning constantly in IT anyway. However, if you don’t work well with people, you’ll make it very hard for anyone to take a chance on you and give you that first break.
Do a good job, keep pushing and your dream job will find you.
Goldencheese:
When I read brilliant and noteworthy Nigerians like yourself, I believe more in this country and the great, awesome destiny that it has.
Soul brother, thank you. I enjoyed every second of reading your well-lettered and scripted journey and wish you many more awesome years in your amazing life.
NwanyiOkpa:
Why are people so unreasonable with their comments on this topic?
Someone came here for advice and some people are advising him to open a POS shop. If all engineering graduates open POS shops, what would be the future of engineering in Nigeria? Also, would he fell fulfilled in the next 10 years time?
My advise, find a way and obtain a masters degree in Engineering and give it a last shot. You don't want to spend your life wishing that you strived harder to achieve engineering roles.
I believe that for you to choose engineering initially, there is a predilection you have towards Engineering. It is a known fact that our country has failed it's graduates but aside that, if you are skilled in a particular area, there would be opportunities for you.
Those who want to open POS shops should go ahead. He needs engineering advice and if you don't have, kindly .
This is one of the best comments on this thread. Thanks
festacman:
Peter Obi will not last a quarter before being impeached for rigidity. He lacks the political know-how.
Donald Duke will initiate space project, spend billions of dollars on it and abandon it like Tinapa. He dreams of lofty ideas but not deep in contemplative skill.
Ikedim Ohakim that failed governance test in Imo State cannot do anything nationally.
Akinwumi Ambode is too naive for Nigeria's sociopolitical complexities.
Babatunde Fashola has the intellectual requirements with deep experience. He lacks the trickery to survive intense politicking.
Yemi Osinbajo has the intellectual capacity, trickery and experience.
Jimi Agbaje is a good entrepreneur but a bad politician. He lacks the experience.
Ben Bruce is a known day dreamer who is good in show business.
Jbelieve:
Just an observation about networking and using LinkedIn. People say networking is key which is absolutely true but what I noticed here is people readily accept your LinkedIn connection which is quite nice because in Nigeria some people dont really accept.
But when you send a message they don't respond. This has happened mostly with recruiters. And I wonder why?
Welcome to Canada bro.
You just have to keep pushing or recruiters will mess up your emotion.
Wetin recruiters don use me do for Canny ehn. No give up.
Hmmm, most people do not know what it feels like to be abroad.
Some people think that being there is easy.
Just because he changed $100 and sent to you, you think he has it all?
To be sincere, that $100 could be a lot to you down in naija. But it is nothing to him that is there. It can’t even pay his rent for a month, water, gas,electricity bills for a month.
You think it is easy for them? Surviving on their own is a big deal talk more of bringing a second party.
My brother. In as much as we rise by lifting others, but never have it at the back of your mind that anyone owes you anything. Nobody owes you shi shi.
If person dash you money, accept, if they do not, do not hold it against them, because they do not have two heads.
If person help you, be grateful, if person no come help you, nwanne move on, they do not owe you any help.
You see this mentality of entitlement? That is what is killing us in naija. This person should help me, but he is not, he is wicked. Lie lie, they are not wicked.
If they tell you what they through.
Shebi if you go city go hustle and ee no go well, you go see who you go borrow transport take enter villa come begin farm. You see them abroad? If ginger catch them, it is either they turn to street begger or they starve, no one send them there, this is not a case of I no wan stay again, make I go back to village, nwanne who wan give an money for ticket?
All I am saying is that, na patch patch all of us de do. Forget say when they wan visit, them go come fresh up, yes, the weather is good. They buy few new clothes. You see some of these faded color clothes, we de rock am, but you do not expect us to snap pics with them and post on social media.
Ee fit be say, ee no easy for your brother. No reason am.
Some are scared that once they bring you, you go begin mess up, if you get police case, na their head ee go land, if him talk say make him bone you and your case, people at home will call him evil.
There are so many reasons, why some won’t bring you there.
Find something and do for yourself,
You can also apply for visa for various countries, the same way that your brother did that time. Na the same head wey him carry na Im you too carry.
“You sound so certain”. Thanks, there’s a reason why I am “so certain”. Can’t state it here.
There are successful and well mannered black ladies in the West. However, being “well-mannered” as defined by the West is different from being “well-mannered” as defined by a “homegrown Nigerian man”.
Those adjectives that I’ve put in quotations are important.
A homegrown Nigerian man expects his black lady to love him and their kids, cook in the home, be homely to his friends and family, etc. A well-mannered Nigerian lady brought up in Nigeria is likely to provide this. However, the “well-mannered” black lady whose growth has been in the West does not think like this. Hardly. Divorce, disrespect, “alone time”, etc, are norms you have to deal with. Unless you want to deceive yourself, that’s just how it is.
And no one should blame them. They are only blacks by skin colour. Anything else, they are not blacks.
It’s up to you. But these are the risks. Well-mannered Nigerian brought up ladies have their own risks too; but the risks on their side are less.
Other nationalities and races are good too; but we are talking about the “homegrown Nigerian man”, who wants to probably eat Eba and egusi and not salad and tomatoes for lunch. The “homegrown Nigerian man” will want to scold his child for misbehaving; the woman will want to “tell the child off”.
Can you deal with these?
Homegrown Nigerian men, can’t deal. Unless they want to lie to themselves. They will pretend and wish they married differently.
Hi, I went in the evening, but there were way too many people and I wasn't keen on ing the queue. Also didn't climb the CN tower because the visibility was poor, low hanging fog/clouds. The officials at the ticketing floor were giving a caveat, and it would have been a waste to go up and not see anything!! So my friend and I just took some pictures from outside and went back home! I'll plan a proper visit another time.
damzy88: 2:51am On Dec 03, 2020 
Where do you stay?
