NewStats: 3,263,624 , 8,180,806 topics. Date: Friday, 06 June 2025 at 09:32 PM 64y44

I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. It could become a blessing for you. You will enjoy getting to know yourself again, building your self respect and confidence. Lean on your family and friends, and you will look back one day with gratitude for this opportunity to grow. You have a co dependent relationship with your husband so invest in therapy and get yourself back. You deserve to be happy, safe, and filled with joy. You can do it! Please seek therapy.

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CTee1:


I’m a working class bro.
Salary 300-400k/mth
girls out there are something else 🤦🏾‍♂️

Let's hear your criteria for a good wife:
Age bracket
Physical attributes
Religious beliefs
Educational level
Employment status

Don't lie to yourself and say you're not picky. Pick these 5 none negotiables and we'll see if it's attainable.

I am happy to inform you that we are not family. Be honest and it you gambled and flexed with your rent money and now you want someone to sponsor your good times.

You need to suffer the consequences of your actions so that you could learn from your mistakes. You can't just open an and expect people to send you money.

People need to put their talents in to script writing, and get paid in real money 💷. All these stories wasted on clout chasing.

Your community sounds amazing! No tolerance for anything nonsense 🚱

DemonSlayer:
Na missing person poster wuna come design like church program poster so?

The only solution to this is to marry the first virgin you sleep with. Be honest with yourself how many virginities have you broken. It's a job of TWO people!

If you don't want to marry none virgins then create a society that shuns premarital sex. You don't get to pick the parts that favours you.

Follow God's word and shun sex before marriage otherwise enjoy your none virgins. Its really not that complicated.

Samantha125:
Oh! That's nice... Thanks for clarity.

You're welcome, sweetie! I love your curiosity.

Samantha125:
What does "Maasha Allah" exactly mean?

"Mashallah" (ما شاء الله), often shortened to "Ma Sha Allah" or "Masha Allah," is an Arabic phrase that translates to "what God has willed" or "God has willed it". It is used to express appreciation, iration, or gratitude for something good that has happened or that one is appreciating. It can also be used to ward off the "evil eye" or envy, according to some cultural interpretations.

AllBlack:


Seems you are joking.
If the wife has never told him from when they were dating till now they are DEEP in marriage, the chances of her ever coming out with the truth right now is 1/7,000.
If I go smelly for one hour, my wife might excuse me for working hard but 3 hours later, maybe I fell asleep or too tired to stand in the bathroom, 5 hours later and all her alarms will go off, starting with incessant talk of having a shower to full blown nagging. 😂

So, why couldn't you extend that curiosity to op that his wife does indeed nag him if he smells. Which woman would kiss and suck a smelly man?

How would you feel if a guest started telling you to bathe in your own home when infact you take pride in your hygiene. People come online to flex their greatness and tear down others to feed their insecurities.

About 3 weeks ago. I went to a certain meeting for the first and it was the best decision I made this decade so far.

For the first time in my life I spoke up in a public gathering and shared my views. 2 firsts in 1.

I've grown in confidence and self esteem from this experience.

Wtf did I just read

Both can be true. I have life long friends who would move the earth for me in times of need. I have work friends and associates who I chill with at work or out in public every now and again. But I enjoy my space and peace of mind so I spend the majority of my time alone. Being introverted isn't the same as having social anxiety or being shy.

The truth is like cryptonite for some people!

This is like a woman whose boyfriend cheated on her and now she expects him not to cheat again because he's now married to her. Some people might change because they're married but majority of people don't. You get what you had before the "I dos"

isey4u:


She go give you Weda she like am or not na her obligation. Take it easy on the guess thou. Sometimes it take people who are just cra*zy like that to point us to the right direction. Abeg no call me fool ooo I just dey air my opinion.

So what you're saying is you suck on smelly nuts, because it's your "obligation?"

🤮.

I counted 11! But I get the subliminal shots fired at women! 😂

That gave me goosebumps mehn! Maaasha Allah! May The Most High grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous; Amen! 🥰🥰🥰

DemonSlayer:


Thanks for pointing that out, I had no idea! 😆 I think it's because I haven't really looked at how others do theirs, and I'm used to counting days by the clock, not by sleep cycles. So I just assumed that if I hadn’t hit my goals by midnight, I’d already messed it up.

You're very welcome. Not at all! I'm glad you know early because that level of pressure could lead to burn out. Let me just add some notes for anyone reading this who wants to try the 75 hard.

Some of the rules are that you:

*Complete each 45 mins activity in one 45 min session.

* Each 45 min activity needs to be a minimum of a couple of hours apart. You can't do one activity straight after the other.

*Read the 10 pages from one book.

* The days end once you go to sleep and wake up the next day (naps are fine).

* The 4l water is only pure water (other liquids don't count towards the 4l).

*No junk food, no sodas, no alcohol, no drugs, (cigarettes are fine if you're addicted and can't or won't quit smoking), no snacks (such as crisps, chocolate, sweets), no cakes, cookies, any highly processed foods.

SourYoghurt:
hey aunty pocohantas, how are you, happy Sunday, week and month. I hope everybody is good.


I wanted your opinion about something, and I believe in the female perspective, you are the best candidate to advice me.

So I have this babe I have been with for a while, over 2 months now. She's working, a civil servant in the state civil service then she does a POS gig at the market( met her at the market ) and hair salon business too.

Last week I found out that she was messing around with her ex while we were together and I felt betrayed because this individual talks like she's a saint and has been running around trying to catch me(honestly I am not, I am not even talking to anyone). I threw her out of my place and her mother got to find out about it then she( her mother) begged for days that she(her daughter was unsure about me and was trying not to waste her time).

The past couple of days, I have been thinking about what to do because to be honest everything seems forced. Ohh, I have had several observations about her.

1. She's someone who has this "I need to mend and show werey" at any given disagreement. She can send 20 minutes voice message cussing and crashing out and 1hr later delete them when I choose to ignore her, thank God for GB WhatsApp. And no, I am not the one making her to loose her mind, I have heard and seen her talk to her teenage younger brother and she's constantly on a loggerhead with her immediate younger sister, that one matches her "craze for craze"

2. I know we're not super rich and stuff, so I don't expect her to get me a Cybertruck, lol but I am yet to find anything as cheap as a single spoon that she has ever bought. please do not misunderstand my point, I expect that if someone wants to "stay" in a place you should have little contributions that they should make voluntarily. Although she handles the cooking and cleaning while I wash and fetch water.

3. 45% of my income goes to black tax especially one of my "non biological sister", so she(the babe) suggested that if she hold the money, the woman would stop billing me because I'd be forced not to give or give wayyyy less. So she is aware of my income and hold a large chunk of the money ( I know this sounds foolish). So for her she's constantly looking for ways for us to spend "my money" and it's and has never been a two way thing at least, make she even buy gala say make I take, e no dey ever happen, whenever I joke about it, she will tell me she doesn't have money. But if she is at the market and want to buy matchstick, she'd always ask me to send her the #50.

4. She is NEVER appreciative, for context she did a surgery, I was beside her and was like an errand boy and paid about 30% of the hospital bill, as a matter of fact, none of her siblings came around or was present (they live in the same locality). And at the slightest argument she's always say "anno yus dey benefit anything for this relationship" and the root cause of our argument 99% of the time is due to the fact that I didn't give her money or oblige or "" her financially.

5. She has problem with me not coming to the parlour to cross legs and gossip or whatever it's that they do. She thinks I am hurting her emotionally by not being available 24/7.


For me, I want someone who is intentional, who shows signs that they'll help me in carrying the burden of life, I want someone who thinks in a "us" way instead of me. I want someone who'll dump my sorry a** the moment I cannot provide.
I know the world is a dog eat dog world, I don't want the mother of my kids to be haughty, vile and violent towards them or for them to pick these traits from her.

So do you think, maybe these traits are normal gen Z traits and it's a follow come that I need to manage. If not, assuming you were in my shoes what'll you do in this situation. Please you can tag your fellows who can advice me about this. I don't want to hold on to something worthless and at the same time I don't want to discard something worthy due to "small bugs".

In case our fair lady is busy, let me throw my two cents in to the mater (since I read it all). I think you already know what you need to do. You would do yourself and her a great disservice if you didn't wait for your personal person.

There's someone perfect out there for both of you. The one thing you should never compromise on is your wife and the mother of your children.

Don't let people ask you "didn't you see these flaws when you were dating?" "What did you discuss with each other when you were dating?"

You know what to do. You know what you need. You know the right thing to do. If you're still confused then reread your post, again, and again... until you get it.

DemonSlayer:
Day 7 of 75:

✅ 4+ litres of water
✅ Workout 1 – 45min (outdoor walking)
✅ Workout 2 – 45 min (yoga)
✅ 10 pages of The Power of Focus
✅ Progress pic
✅ Ate clean

Risked my streak today! Today of all days when I'm marking week 1 and it's a Saturday! completed it in the nick of time with the progress pic just a few minutes ago.

Today's reading was about goal setting. Basically, know where you want to go and create a detailed plan on how to get there.

Hey lovely, I hope you know that you don't have to complete the tasks by a set time (like midnight), you just have to complete it before you go to sleep at night. If you go to sleep at 1 or 3am it's still day 1 until you call it a night and go to bed. It's tailored to your specific needs. Some people work nights and do the challenge at night. If you know this already, forgive me for woman-xplaining 😂

keemsleek:



Thank you for the response..... it was simple has ABC. Like daughter like mother... ungreatful and selfish people. I can bet it it was the man that paid all her fees and the so call biological father didn't drop a dime. If I was the one both mother and daugtger are gone. The mother knew about it all along. Maybe the mother was even codely seeing the ex convict father behind and taking things.

You're really letting your imagination run! How do you know all this? What if your wrong

Blakjewelry:

If he was a bad parent to her, I don't think he had put on his insurance and stuff.

Being a good parent is more than financial responsibilities. What if he was emotionally abusive, what if he was physically abusive. What if she just resented the way he made her feel. We don't know the full story, we only have his 50% to go by. Must people only what you did to them and never the role they played. We just don't know the full story.

hakeemhakeem:

What side you need to hear again taken her in since bearly 5 months old, provided all her needs even some parents couldn't do such for their biological kids.100% his decision

I wish she didn't try to sell herself and then console herself! Tell the truth with your chest and take the consequences like a G! She fall her hand. 🤦‍♀️

I only hate 1 type of person, and that's a disloyal person. I understand his hurt, and although he didn't ask for applause, I think he did the right thing cutting her off. There was no need to do the man like that.

Having said all that; we don't know what type of parent he was to her. We would need her side of the story to get the full picture but he had every right to stop ing her, since she's an adult now.

Samantha125:
The girl's parents wanted her boyfriend to be sending them monthly stipends as proof that he's capable of looking after their daughter, the guy saw a major rad flag and ran for his life...🤣🤣🤣

Now she's heartbroken and wondering what wrong did she do to make him breakup with her.

Thank you so much! I can't believe she asked that. I guess she got the answer she needed and decided to delete her thread.

I knew I could trust you when it comes to gist 😂 😂 😂

Double0h7:
My mistakes were all lessons that helped in my growth and journey. I made so many mistakes that I'm one of the wisest people you'll ever know

This truth still stands

Who woke this thread up

Any woman who respects and loves her husband will never do that in front of him.

uniquetechng:
That's a 2023 automatic 9kg top loader, that machine will set you back minimum of 600k. So how is that a 1920 washing machine ?

I've never seen anything like it. It looks like old technology.

This is a washing machine to me...

Blitzking:

Tell her u had an injury at work and needed to protect urself from any retroviral infection and was given the med by ur office clinic. Adjust as necessary

King of liars 🤥


I can't lie though, this is a great lie!