NewStats: 3,263,753 , 8,181,278 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 06:01 PM 4t6n4g

Good. God speed them.

helinues:
Pray for your life to be better instead

I'll do both.

One Our Father



One Hail Mary.


Pray and on.

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Klass99:


I think you have a good point but Pansophist also made some valid points, your response and reaction to him wasn't necessary.

Let's try and debate the issue sensibly and in a civil manner.

1. The difference between parents and children is that, parents made a choice to have children and that choice comes with responsibilities and obligations some of which you listed above. Children on the other hand didn't make a choice to come into this world, to have parents or to have the sort of situation OP is in thrust upon them. As children we try to make the best of it, by doing good, doing right and doing well by our parents.

2. It is a natural course of life that children will grow up one day and leave home. This is a normal and old practice, even the bible talks about a man leaving his parents to cleave to his wife. We leave the nest to build our lives and live out our dreams or purpose, most times that means physically parting from parents and leaving them behind.

3. Parents and children were never meant to be together until death do them part. That is an exclusive reserve of married couples. The OP"s parents are the ones who should be together till death does them part. I understand the sentiment you expressed about parents being old, doing things for us and wanting us around in old age, but I think what most of them truly need is companionship.

4. It can be companionship from one another as a couple, from their friends, church community, or a group of people with same interests, etc. It must not necessarily be from the physical presence of their children. This is one of the reasons why I believe companionship is more important in marriage than children. I also don't like this idea we have of birthing kids so they can look after us in old age. It creates scenarios like the one OP is in now and emotional blackmail as well.

5. I cannot relate to the desire or need, to bring non-existent people into existence, just so they can take care of us in old age. It is a lot work if you ask .

I am more quick to send that girl pocket money for her personal use, than I am, to send to some of my own blood relatives. Blood is not thicker than water for me when it comes to that girl, the value she has provided and continues to provide exceeds the value some blood relatives have provided.

Perfectly said.

SultanOfPuna:
I have lived alone in apartment from 2019 to 2023
Due to financial struggles i relocated to my parents house 2023 since then i'm still with them

Now its 2 years and i have gotten financially stable and solid.
I want to leave but my parents are old and they want me to be around them at this stage of their life.


My parents are really old
My siblings are all married except me. My siblings are in different states far away from my parents.
I'm the only one closer to them

I'm the one taking care of the house and making sure things are in order.
But deep down i want to leave the house and go create my own family.

If i leave them and move out i fear that things will be out of order and disorganised due to old age.
Unfortunately no younger sibling to help look after them.

What should i do?

SultanofPuna

"For this reason shall a man LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER and be cleaved to his wife."

OP, even Jesus left home at 30. Go and find your home and privacy.

You are not indispensable. Your parents will find their way.

pansophist:


Close-minded people (actually stupid people) uses insult, shaming tactics, and manipulation trying to make sense, instead of drop their foolish opinion and go.

Why is his parent not with their own parents?

All the thing you mentioned that his parent did for him, he will do it for his own children, this is the natural dynamic. It doesnt mean he wont show care to his parent, but care doesnt mean living with them permanently.

So if he has to be a businessman that travels globally, he should saddle his parents and be flying everywhere with them? Do you think at all?

I take very good care of my parents, and we do not live together. Care can be shown without 24/7 physical presence. I have kids as well, so I have reached that age.

Judging from the time you opened your nairaland , I would have expect a level of decorum and manners when you write, but you have proven that stupid people also grow old

Don't mind him. Jesus who first left his parents at 12 (to be about his vocational business) at and later on LEFT PERMANENTLY at 30?

yemmit90:
We are so selfish and ignorant in this part of the world. What is so bad in staying with someone aged parents that laboured endlessly to raise us? So, he can move to them when he was struggling but not when he is financially stable? That is the extent of our shallow thinking, and you keep wondering if it worth it to suffer to raise children these days.

An average European, Chinese or American live with their parents but here in Africa, we detest and don't have empathy toward one another. Why would anyone leave his aged parents when he/she is in position to stay with them. Loneliness at old age is out of this world, and it is a great privilege to have one of your children family around.

That is why every man should try to make money. The rich take up another wife that will give them young children who will keep the house running at old age.

You are talking nonsense.

SultanOfPuna:
I have lived alone in apartment from 2019 to 2023
Due to financial struggles i relocated to my parents house 2023 since then i'm still with them

Now its 2 years and i have gotten financially stable and solid.
I want to leave but my parents are old and they want me to be around them at this stage of their life.


My parents are really old
My siblings are all married except me. My siblings are in different states far away from my parents.
I'm the only one closer to them

I'm the one taking care of the house and making sure things are in order.
But deep down i want to leave the house and go create my own family.

If i leave them and move out i fear that things will be out of order and disorganised due to old age.
Unfortunately no younger sibling to help look after them.

What should i do?

Please go and get your own home, form your own family.

You could visit them often at the beginning.

But go and get your own life.

Trust me, they will quickly get another option. Like finding a little child that will stay with them.

Go and get your own home. God bless.

chinchum:
How old is Nigeria?


Just 70years ago, many states barely had 10% literacy rate, half of the population were almost naked and living like early man, but we suddenly think Nigeria should be US when we travel to US. We fail to see our role in the "failings" of Nigeria. There is no magic bullet, we will grow slowly and steadily at least in the next 15 years.

How old is Singapore?

APCNig:
Okay. That’s why you travel all round the world demarketing your region because you cannot demarket Nigeria with your bitterness.

You want Nigeria to work, yet you went from Church to Church saying that Christians should take back their country and went as far as calling your YES DADDY Bishop to help you start religious war.

You will never ever rule Nigeria

He will rule, and I will thumbprint for him.

sleek214:
Ok na. He has already captured the South, now it's time to bribe the north with Juicy appointments
Obi case has been settled since Obi met with him in Rome in respect of Fidelity Bank that's why Obi came out yesterday to say he will contest in 2027, in other to reduce votes from Atiku. From the way things are going presently, Nigerians should just wait till 2031 and chose among, Kwankwanso, Shettima and a host of Northern candidates that will come up Except Obidients borrow sense and think.... Obidients will be the deciding factor in the next election, it's either they waste their votes on Obi Or they push Tinubu out by voting for Atiku

Why can't Atikuents borrow sense, step down and stop stealing votes from Obi?

Knowing fully well Atiku can't win?

God bless Labour Party

Are you crazy?

Why can't you just tell her what happened?

Nonsense.

NO.

trabit:
Forget all this gathering, Jagaban winning 2027 election is a sure bet with 1.001 odds. That pa is more of an action taker, and less talk. Opposition should not bother wasting their funds. Let's see how long the one party system will last.

Jahbagan keel you there.

simpleseyi:
Nobody from that side will ever rule Nigeria

"The hand of the valiant bear rule". (Prov 12:24)

If the hand of that side becomes valiant, they will rule.

Kdon2:


Why would any reasonable person vote a gbajue? ☹️

Because when confronted "with two evils the wise man should choose the lesser". (St. Thomas Aquinas)

Vote Peter Obi for President in 2027.

You sincerely do not have many better options, and Peter Obi is the best thing economically, in of security, democracy and advancement.

1. Peter Obi is the best to fight insecurity. Anambra was the safest State throughout his tenure. He appoints people against insecurity and goes to hold the bull by the horns.

Doesn't allow any matter to slip by. He destroyed all houses reported to belong to kidnappers.

2. Peter Obi will hand over to a competent President. That is another thing to consider. You can never be sure of this with a career politician. They may keep handing over to funny lots till the end of your life. But Peter Obi will hand over to someone better than himself. That's your posterity at stake, and assured.

3. Low unemployment. Anambra had quite a low unemployment rate during his tenure. He is efficient in seeing people work and in improving the work environment.

4. Rising Literacy. Voting Peter Obi means higher national literacy levels. Anambra consistently had the best WAEC results during his tenure. Peter Obi will insure the correct functioning and attendance of Secondary Schools. Higher national literacy will also mean a safer country, with less untrained minds and attitudes.

Vote Peter Obi without thinking in 2027.

Xavier0978:
Hey guys,

Please, I need your opinion on this issue. So I’ve known my girlfriend since NYSC 2019, and ever since then, we’ve been best of friends. I travelled out in 2022, but we still kept in touch and from there we started dating. I’m 29 and she’s also 29. Honestly, I have plans to settle down and marry her when things are right.
.

Marry her immediately. She's right. And things could get better after that.

Time is important. It has a joy on its own.

relaxfun:
A little back story.

arpen my Math/Programming skills. I plan to rent a shop that is big enough so that I can also be sleeping/living there.

Now I seriously need advicing because this is such a turning point in my life and the next few years is going to make or break me because there is no room for any disastrous bad decision

Your plan is good. I will say, Go with it.

MaxInDHouse:

How come Jesus is POOR?
He said:

“Foxes have dens and birds of heaven have nests, but the Son of man has nowhere to lay down his head.” Luke 9:58
In fact when temple tax collectors asked him for money he has to perform a miracle to pay up! Matthew 17:24-27
After his arrest the soldiers found no money on him so they gambled over the only thing they could get which is his inner garment.
So if Jesus himself was POOR materially speaking who is that person that's closer to God than Jesus o?

2 Corinthians 8:9:
"For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that being rich he became poor for your sakes: that through his poverty you might be rich."

1. "The industrious getteth riches." (Prov 10:4)

2. "The strong shall get riches." (Prov 11:16)

3. "The crown of the wise is their riches". (Prov 14:24)

4. "Wisdom with riches is more profitable." (Eccles 7:12)

5. "All things obey money." (Eccles 10:19)



Seek wisdom,,, then money. It's important in that order. (Ecclesiastes 7:12)

Lamasta:


Vanity upon vanity all is vanity

Empty we came and empty we shall return

In the meantime, money can:

1. Help you sin less
2. Help you further education
3. Help you take care of the Church and the Less Privileged

Money has advantages in the Law of Grace.

Consider Money like Grace. The more you meritly have, the holier you could become.

Seek wisdom,,, then money. It's important (in that order).

1. "The industrious getteth riches." (Prov 10:4)

2. "The strong shall get riches." (Prov 11:16)

3. "The crown of the wise is their riches". (Prov 14:24)

4. "Wisdom with riches is more profitable." (Eccles 7:12)

5. "All things obey money." (Eccles 10:19)



Seek wisdom,,, then money. It's important in that order. (Ecclesiastes 7:12)

Lamasta:
Everything is vanity

1. "The industrious getteth riches." (Prov 10:4)

2. "The strong shall get riches." (Prov 11:16)

3. "The crown of the wise is their riches". (Prov 14:24)

4. "Wisdom with riches is more profitable under the Sun" (Eccles 7:12)

5. "All things obey money." (Eccles 10:19)

It is good before GOD to be rich. It brings advantages to fulfill the Commandments.

God is the Author of money, and the God of the truly rich.

Summary:

1. Life of St. Joachim and St. Anne

2. Birth of the Blessed Virgin Mary

3. St. Joseph

4. The Incarnation

5. Presentation in the Temple

6. The Holy Apostles

7. The ion and Death

Written by Ven. Mary of Jesus of Agreda.

Mystical City of God: Life Time of The Virgin Mary

https://www.ecatholic2000.com/agreda/mystical/city.shtml#__RefHeading___Toc338962795

(To read online)

Nnamdi Okonkwo, the former MD of Fidelity Bank (Peter Obi) took over as Group MD of First Bank Nigeria Holdings and has reported N238bn in the first quarter of his first year in office.

The Group Managing Director, FBNHoldings, NNAMDI OKONKWO in a statement said, “FBNHoldings’ strong start to the year reinforces the confidence in achieving targets and delivering sustained value for our shareholders. “Our commitment to optimising the Group’s earnings capacity and maximising operational efficiencies has again delivered outstanding results.

If it was Olawole, he would have kept reporting N50bn and telling them it's mistakes of past .

I've stayed among Yorba. The worst Igbo is Saint among Yorba. Yorubas are not like Efik, Rivers, Benue or Edo. A special people under 'Oba' voodoo.

Their problem is that they are either protestants or pagans, and would be worshipping muslim Oba in the guise of 'yoruba' tradition. Brainwashed into apostasising from sense and Christian brotherhood. Less than 0.5% Christian. God gift Yorba to become true Christians.

God bless Igbos.

Nigeria's GDP is officially reported on Wikipedia as $252bn ($1100 per capita).

The country's GDP was formerly $568bn in 2014 ($3200 per capita).

The country is ranked poorer than Cameroon, Angola, Congo Republic, Zimbabwe, Ghana, Botswana all of whom have higher per capita incomes.

Zimbabwe for example has a per Capita of $2000 for 2024, and Congo Brazaville, $2400.

Here is a list of some select African countries and their prosperity in 2024:

1. Seychelles - $21000
2. Mauritius - $12900
3. Gabon - $9300
4. Botswana - $7800
5. Libya - $6900
6. Equatorial Guinea - $6700
7. South Africa - $5900
8. Algeria - $5700
9. Namibia - $4700
10. Cape Verde - $4600
11. Djibouti - $4100

Ghana ($2200), Egypt ($3700), CID ($2700), Angola ($2400), Zimbabwe ($2000), Senegal ($1900), Cameroon ($1800), Uganda ($1200).

Nigeria is currently only comparing with Niger Republic ($670) and Chad ($1090).


Nigerians should bend their neck to learn from other African countries. For example, stop being wicked. Add a little French Colonisation education to your UK. Localism can blind at 99%. Don't learn from foreigners. Learn a thing or two from your immediate neighbours.

... and stop following Rwanda ($980). They don't teach Nigerians any real thing. Organise your travels to SA, Congo, Seychelles, Namibia, Gabon, Cameroon etc

Prov 10:4: "The slothful hand hath wrought poverty: but the hand of the industrious getteth riches. He that trusteth to lies feedeth the winds: and the same runneth after the birds that fly away."

Definition of Industriousness

Industriousness is the quality of being hardworking, diligent, and dedicated to one's work or tasks. It involves consistently putting in effort, being productive, and striving to achieve goals. Industrious individuals are often focused, disciplined, and committed to their responsibilities, leading to successful outcomes and personal growth.

Industriousness is the first virtue in Proverbs marked out as leading to riches. This implies God wants people in the civil life to be industrious: set out a goal, work hard towards it and get its rewards for body and soul.

The way of getting what we want is by working towards it. Anything contrary is trusting to lies. It is also virtuous to be rich and sinful to be poor.

God bless all Nigerians.