| henndukwe18: 11:46pm On Sep 23, 2024 |
In reference to this post https://nairaland.sitesunblocked.org/7222565/first-kiss my relationship has been moving so smoothly, everyday is love day, butterflies have now turned to beautiful birds singing in my belly, a single glance at her picture puts me in a deep imagination dt keeps me smiling for some minutes, i imagine how happy we wl be together as couples, such a sensational moment, i neva knew she has the same thing in mind until d last night we met before she travelled to start sch at enugu university.
In that night, as we were having our normal romantic moment, at the peak of the romance, she asked me if we were going to marry, i was surprised, then i said yes we wl, bt wen the time comes.
We re just in our first year in sch, her uncle handles her sch stuffs while i take care of mine and also get little from family, especially my mom.
My mom has always wanted me to b in sch, she wants d best for me bt financial burdens kept delaying me. I wanted to hustle enough money before i wil think of going to sch bt my mom forced me to start ds yr, i told ha i wasnt prepared bt she insisted i start sch dt they wil me, i agreed n started, now i feel left out, first semester was survival, i quit my job to start sch since my mom wanted me to as a morning student, i hv exhausted all the money on my first semester bt my grades are critically bad, in all the things we do in sch, my participations in sch is 20%, why?, because of money, everything we do in sch involves money, am very brilliant bt all the dull brains in sch that are being ed by their rich dads are beta than me, after our first semester exam i knew it was over for me, i started loosing interest in sch bt my mom kept pushing me forward and motivating me, nothing will make ha happy than to see me become a graduate.
During these struggles, i was stl communicating with my girl friend, i shud have gone for ha matric at enugu bt i couldnt because of money, i hv disappointed her in many ways over the things i know i can handle if i was working, she is very understanding, bt deep down in me, i feel bad about my situation. I was stl reasoning wt she told me abt marriage and i dnt want to loose ha.
At the ending of my second semester, ha first semester was over, we were so excited to see each oda, we met at our normal spot, at the sight of me, she ran towards me with an exciting smile on ha face n hugged me so tight, she is more beautiful n curvy than wen she left for sch, she now has a little figure 8 shape (i once imagined dt), she is more attractive now, her eyes n smile were amazing, she was even more excited to see me than i was, we were cuddling, jisting, laughing, smiling n kissing like mad, such a romantic moment.
In the middle of our romance, she held my hands while staring me directly in the eyes and asked me the question again, she asked me if we re going to marry, this time, she had a pleading look on her face, she is a very emotional person and neva hides ha feelings from me, with dt look i knew she was very serious about it, she is probably going crazy abt me, i told ha yes we wl bt we have to finish our education first before starting life together, she said she was afraid of loosing me, i told ha she wont loose me and am also afraid of loosing ha, we just need to wait for d right time, she asked me till wen, i asked ha if she wanted to have a baby and b going to sch with it, she said no dt she just wants us to get engaged, as an assurance dt we will be together forever, i told ha i would b there for ha, she looked annoyed bt i hv a way of getting into ha, she is emotional and has a soft heart, i used that as an advantage to sweet talk ha out of it before we continued our romance.
My academics now are even worst than last semester due to lack of money and we are currently taking exam, with the way things re going, am not just going to have a lot of carry overs, i am going to repeat my 100 level, it will b a big shame that someone as brilliant as i am is repeating first yr, my efforts re no longer enough, After my girlfriend went home dt night, i was thinking throughout dt night, she has clouded my mind, now i want ha so bad, i dnt want to loose ha, she is a human being and has a limit, if i continue like ds, someone is probably going to take over from me, she is ready to build with me bt if i dnt do anything about it or make any effort in building our relationship, it is only a matter of time before she ends it, and dt is wen she cant take it any longer.
With all these things crumbling on me, i dnt think i can have my gf and be schooling at the same time, i need to make a very hard decision;
1. To forget about my gf and continue struggling with my studies since my mom wants me to go to sch
2. Drop out of school and start hustling to earn a living and start taking the responsibilities of a man
Both My mom and gf wouldnt want me to go for no 2, especially my mom, bt that is d one my mind is going for right now.
Please, advice me on ds issue, am in need of it.
Insults are allowed, i can take it.
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| mmadu4: 12:04am On Sep 24, 2024 |
henndukwe18:
In reference to this post https://nairaland.sitesunblocked.org/7222565/first-kiss my relationship has been moving so smoothly, everyday is love day, butterflies have now turned to beautiful birds singing in my belly, a single glance at her picture puts me in a deep imagination dt keeps me smiling for some minutes, i imagine how happy we wl be together as couples, such a sensational moment, i neva knew she has the same thing in mind until d last night we met before she travelled to start sch at enugu university.
In that night, as we were having oir normal romantic moment, at tje peak of the romance, she asked me if we were going to marry, i was surprised, then i said yes we wl, bt wen the time comes.
We re just in our first year in sch, her uncle handles her sch stuffs while i take care of mine and also get little from family, especially my mom.
My mom has always wanted me to b in sch, she wants d best for me bt financial burdens kept delaying me. I wanted to hustle enough money before i wil think of going to sch bt my mom forced me to start ds yr, i told ha i wasnt prepared bt she insisted i start sch dt they wil me, i agreed n started, first semester was survival, i quit my job to start sch since my mom wanted me to as a morning student, i hv exhausted all the money on my first semester bt my grades are critically bad, in all the things we do in sch, my participations in sch is 20%, why?, because of money, everything we do in sch involves money, am very brilliant bt all the dull brains in sch that are being ed by their rich dads are beta than me, after our first semester exam i knew it was over for me, i started loosing interest in sch bt my mom kept pushing me forward and motivating me, nothing will make ha happy than to see me become a graduate.
During these struggles, i was stl communicating with my girl friend, i shud have gone for ha matric at enugu bt i couldnt because of money, i hv disappointed her in many ways over the things i know i can handle if i was working, she is very understanding, bt deep down in me, i feel bad about my situation. I was stl reasoning wt she told me abt marriage and i dnt want to loose ha.
At the ending of my second semester, ha first semester was over, we were so excited to see each oda, we met at our normal spot, at the sight of me, she ran towards me with an exciting smile on ha face n hugged me so tight, she is more beautiful n curvy than wen she left for sch, she now has a little figure 8 shape (i onve imagimed dt), she is more attractive now, her eyes n smile were amazing, she was even more excited to see me than i was, we were cuddling, jisting, laughing, smiling n kissing like mad, such a romantic moment.
In the middle of our romance, she held my hands while staring me directly in the eyes and asked me the question again, she asked me if we re going to marry, this time, she had a pleading look on her face, she is a very emotional person and neva hides ha feelings from me, with dt look i knew she was very serious about it, she is probably going crazy abt me, i told ha yes we wl bt we have to finish our education first before starting life together, she said she was afraid of loosing me, i told ha she wont loose me and am also afraid of loosing ha, we just need to wait for d right time, she asked me till wen, i asked ha if she wanted to have a baby and b going to sch with it, she said no dt she just wants us to get engaged, as an assurance dt we will be together forever, i told ha i would b there for ha, she looked annoyed bt i hv a way of getting imto ha, she is emotional and has a soft heart, i used that as an advantage to sweet talk ha out of it before we continued our romance.
My academics now are even worst than last semester due to lack of money and we are currently taking exam, with the way things re going, am not just going to have a lot of carry overs, i am going to repeat my 100 level, it will b a big shame that someone as brilliant as i am is repeating first yr, my efforts re no longer enough, After my girlfriend went home dt night, i was thinking throughout dt night, she has clouded my mind, now i want ha so bad, i dnt want to loose ha, she is a human being and has a limit, if i continue like ds, someone is probably going to take over from me, she is ready to build with me bt if i dnt do anything about it or make any effort in building our relationship, it is only a matter of time before she ends it, and dt is wen she cant take it any longer.
With all these things crumbling on me, i dnt think i can have my gf and be schooling at the same time, i need to make a very hard decision;
1. To continue struggling with ny studies
oga forget sch and go into crypto trading. use the little education you obtained to hold body, school no dey reign again . just wasting your time while your mates are cashing out block. if you no package well she fit leave u for a yahoo boi ooo.
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| henndukwe18: 12:07am On Sep 24, 2024 |
mmadu4:
oga forget sch and go into crypto trading. use the little education you obtained to hold body, school no dey reign again . just wasting your time while your mates are cashing out block. if you no package well she fit leave u for a yahoo boi ooo.
aswr
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| Karleb(m): 1:00am On Sep 24, 2024 |
My advice is, you got a good woman that you love and loves you. Some married people do not have what you have.
Don't break up with that girl.
As per your studies, you are not serious, you are just covering it up with lack of money. If you read, you will , at worst, you won't fail. So sit up and study hard.
Lastly, Mr. JJC, they don't repeat levels in the university. 
Don't listen to those telling you school no dey reign again. They are ignoramus.
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| mmadu4: 1:04am On Sep 24, 2024 |
Karleb:
My advice is, you got a good woman that you love and loves you. Some married people do not have what you have.
Don't break up with that girl.
As per your studies, you are not serious, you are just covering it up with lack of money. If you read, you will , at worst, you won't fail. So sit up and study hard.
Lastly, Mr. JJC, they don't repeat levels in the university.
Don't listen to those telling you school no dey reign again. They are ignoramus.
ignoramus you say? in this Nigeria even if he finishes school what next? he will now go and do NYSC , after that what next? lol dey play
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| obinnazy(m): 6:31am On Sep 24, 2024 |
henndukwe18:
In reference to this post https://nairaland.sitesunblocked.org/7222565/first-kiss my relationship has been moving so smoothly, everyday is love day, butterflies have now turned to beautiful birds singing in my belly, a single glance at her picture puts me in a deep imagination dt keeps me smiling for some minutes, i imagine how happy we wl be together as couples, such a sensational moment, i neva knew she has the same thing in mind until d last night we met before she travelled to start sch at enugu university.
In that night, as we were having our normal romantic moment, at the peak of the romance, she asked me if we were going to marry, i was surprised, then i said yes we wl, bt wen the time comes.
We re just in our first year in sch, her uncle handles her sch stuffs while i take care of mine and also get little from family, especially my mom.
My mom has always wanted me to b in sch, she wants d best for me bt financial burdens kept delaying me. I wanted to hustle enough money before i wil think of going to sch bt my mom forced me to start ds yr, i told ha i wasnt prepared bt she insisted i start sch dt they wil me, i agreed n started, now i feel left out, first semester was survival, i quit my job to start sch since my mom wanted me to as a morning student, i hv exhausted all the money on my first semester bt my grades are critically bad, in all the things we do in sch, my participations in sch is 20%, why?, because of money, everything we do in sch involves money, am very brilliant bt all the dull brains in sch that are being ed by their rich dads are beta than me, after our first semester exam i knew it was over for me, i started loosing interest in sch bt my mom kept pushing me forward and motivating me, nothing will make ha happy than to see me become a graduate.
During these struggles, i was stl communicating with my girl friend, i shud have gone for ha matric at enugu bt i couldnt because of money, i hv disappointed her in many ways over the things i know i can handle if i was working, she is very understanding, bt deep down in me, i feel bad about my situation. I was stl reasoning wt she told me abt marriage and i dnt want to loose ha.
At the ending of my second semester, ha first semester was over, we were so excited to see each oda, we met at our normal spot, at the sight of me, she ran towards me with an exciting smile on ha face n hugged me so tight, she is more beautiful n curvy than wen she left for sch, she now has a little figure 8 shape (i once imagined dt), she is more attractive now, her eyes n smile were amazing, she was even more excited to see me than i was, we were cuddling, jisting, laughing, smiling n kissing like mad, such a romantic moment.
In the middle of our romance, she held my hands while staring me directly in the eyes and asked me the question again, she asked me if we re going to marry, this time, she had a pleading look on her face, she is a very emotional person and neva hides ha feelings from me, with dt look i knew she was very serious about it, she is probably going crazy abt me, i told ha yes we wl bt we have to finish our education first before starting life together, she said she was afraid of loosing me, i told ha she wont loose me and am also afraid of loosing ha, we just need to wait for d right time, she asked me till wen, i asked ha if she wanted to have a baby and b going to sch with it, she said no dt she just wants us to get engaged, as an assurance dt we will be together forever, i told ha i would b there for ha, she looked annoyed bt i hv a way of getting into ha, she is emotional and has a soft heart, i used that as an advantage to sweet talk ha out of it before we continued our romance.
My academics now are even worst than last semester due to lack of money and we are currently taking exam, with the way things re going, am not just going to have a lot of carry overs, i am going to repeat my 100 level, it will b a big shame that someone as brilliant as i am is repeating first yr, my efforts re no longer enough, After my girlfriend went home dt night, i was thinking throughout dt night, she has clouded my mind, now i want ha so bad, i dnt want to loose ha, she is a human being and has a limit, if i continue like ds, someone is probably going to take over from me, she is ready to build with me bt if i dnt do anything about it or make any effort in building our relationship, it is only a matter of time before she ends it, and dt is wen she cant take it any longer.
With all these things crumbling on me, i dnt think i can have my gf and be schooling at the same time, i need to make a very hard decision;
1. To forget about my gf and continue struggling with my studies since my mom wants me to go to sch
2. Drop out of school and start hustling to earn a living and start taking the responsibilities of a man
Both My mom and gf wouldnt want me to go for no 2, especially my mom, bt that is d one my mind is going for right now.
Please, advice me on ds issue, am in need of it.
Insults are allowed, i can take it.
Reading can be very stressful when you are broke, but the truth is, if you read hard you will ..... You should have opted for a partime,.
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| Verydarkhearted(m): 6:59am On Sep 24, 2024 |
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I didn’t read everything .. but the only advice I can give you is that you can still work and combine your studies. Secondly don’t allow any woman pressure you what soever.. love or no love you both are still kids and have not yet experienced life.. your relationship will end in tears but please don’t allow your future end in years too., look for a job I can combine wit your studies and do.
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| JOACHINpedro: 7:46am On Sep 24, 2024 |
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This is terrible.
Op, you need to start unloving her asap. Take it from a once1st-year-lover-boy. The possibility you will marry her is close to zero. The same level- redflag
Distance- bloodflag
In sch, the pressure to level up is damn high from ladies. Not to talk of this generation wey money be the ultimate. Guy, free yourself and free that girl.
Earn your peace now
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| IamAtAnger: 7:48am On Sep 24, 2024 |
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Secure ur future first, then any other things will follow.
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| henndukwe18: 8:21am On Sep 24, 2024 |
Karleb:
My advice is, you got a good woman that you love and loves you. Some married people do not have what you have.
Don't break up with that girl.
As per your studies, you are not serious, you are just covering it up with lack of money. If you read, you will , at worst, you won't fail. So sit up and study hard.
Lastly, Mr. JJC, they don't repeat levels in the university.
Don't listen to those telling you school no dey reign again. They are ignoramus.
i take my studies more serious than 80% of my course mates, especially those yahoo guys, they dnt stress their selves, last last, they will sort n move on, i am broke now, my seriousness in studies cannot provide me any money
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| henndukwe18: 8:26am On Sep 24, 2024 |
JOACHINpedro:
This is terrible.
Op, you need to start unloving her asap. Take it from a once1st-year-lover-boy. The possibility you will marry her is close to zero. The same level- redflag
Distance- bloodflag
In sch, the pressure to level up is damn high from ladies. Not to talk of this generation wey money be the ultimate. Guy, free yourself and free that girl.
Earn your peace now
with the current economy of this country, how am i sure that after struggling all these n become a graduate that i will get a job with my certificate?
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| Karleb(m): 8:27am On Sep 24, 2024 |
henndukwe18:
i take my studies more serious than 80% of my course mates, especially those yahoo guys, they dnt stress their selves, last last, they will sort n move on, i am broke now, my seriousness in studies cannot provide me any money
If what you want is to compare yourself with yahoo boys, no wahala but I don't have an advice for you.
There's no way you would read and have carry overs so much so that you are scared of repeating a level. You don't read or you don't read enough. That's just it.
If you can't introspect, omo, there's nothing I can do. After all, it's your life and I can't love you more than you love yourself.
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| henndukwe18: 8:30am On Sep 24, 2024 |
IamAtAnger:
Secure ur future first, then any other things will follow.
ya, some ladies carry grace
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| IamAtAnger: 8:45am On Sep 24, 2024 |
Focus... life isn't bed of roses.. there's always a price to pay. Don't be distracted along the journey. No any love compares to mother's love... others na attachments. Don't learn in the hard way, obviously you're still a kid and naive 😊. Doesn't mean u shouldn't play along with ur acclaimed first love though but don't be too attached
henndukwe18:
ya, some ladies carry grace
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| henndukwe18: 8:53am On Sep 24, 2024 |
IamAtAnger:
Focus... life isn't bed of roses.. there's always a price to pay. Don't be distracted along the journey. No any love compared to a mother's love... others na attachments. Don't learn in the hard way, obviously you're still a kid and naive 😊. Doesn't mean u shouldn't play along with ur acclaimed first love though but don't be too attached
am nt too attached, i can stl change my mind anytime
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| JOACHINpedro: 9:18am On Sep 24, 2024 |
henndukwe18:
with the current economy of this country, how am i sure that after struggling all these n become a graduate that i will get a job with my certificate?
You're going to sch to get money after graduation?
Die that mindset. You need to open your mind, apparently, love infatuation has beclouded your reasoning.
In today's world University doesn't give a financially secured future. It gives opportunities that are limited to average person. You gat to halt love for now and open your inner mind.
After banny don show me shege for 1st year, I had a rethink and saw what I could not see. Got connected to a whole lots of people that still made it possible for me to have a smooth sail in life (international wise). Didn't date again until after sch.
Bro, you gat to come out of delusion that sch is for future financial security. And you gat leave that girl alone. We are in Nigeria, ending up with high sch sweetheart is hollywood
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| henndukwe18: 9:27am On Sep 24, 2024 |
JOACHINpedro:
You're going to sch to get money after graduation?
Die that mindset. You need to open your mind, apparently, love infatuation has beclouded your reasoning.
In today's world University doesn't give a financially secured future. It gives opportunities that are limited to average person. You gat to halt love for now and open your inner mind.
After banny don show me shege for 1st year, I had a rethink and saw what I could not see. Got connected to a whole lots of people that still made it possible for me to have a smooth sail in life (international wise). Didn't date again until after sch.
Bro, you gat to come out of delusion that sch is for future financial security. And you gat leave that girl alone. We are in Nigeria, ending up with high sch sweetheart is hollywood
thanks man
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| JOACHINpedro: 9:40am On Sep 24, 2024 |
henndukwe18:
thanks man
all the best.
henndukwe18:
ya, some ladies carry grace
Which one is grace again?
There is chance that you will make it with her if you don't let go. Also there is more chance that the shege and the tears will be promax if you stick with her. All these na gamble. But in romantic love, never risk it. Always be selfish. Put yourself first esp when you're at the losing end.
That banny doesn't have to have anything tangible to get a comfortable man/husband in Enugu (don't hate her, that's nature). Guy plan your life. If you decide to quit sch or stay in sch, know that you will bear the brunt of the outcome. Na your life be this.
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| IamAtAnger: 11:24am On Sep 24, 2024 |
Hmmm it's not only abt changing ur mind though... but its also abt nurturing ur path well.. e nor easy oo.. if e easy na set up
henndukwe18:
am nt too attached, i can stl change my mind anytime
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