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Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰

Pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

I don't pity you here. In fact, I believe that you are not being honest here. I believe so because planning a wedding is not the first step to getting married. There are other marriage rites that precede a wedding plan. Did both parents approve of the first marriage rites and suddenly turn against the planned marriage because of the planned wedding? It is either you wanted to start the marriage by attempting to do wedding first and you made the attempt without the consent of both parents or both parents knew about the marriage plan and have been kicking against it but you decided to allow your stupidity to take you far.

Blame yourself for not getting the families' approval for the relationship before going to the extent of planning a wedding.

If you want to obey parents in your marriage, obey them from the beginning, get their permission to start the relationship in the first place. Do not go halfway independently and turn around to dance to their tunes.

If you know that your parents can't decide for you whom you should marry, you can find a partner, plan a wedding with the person and proceed with the marriage even if your parents are not in of the marriage.

Every choice has a consequence. Choose one and face its consequence. Don't try to do A and get B as your result.

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰 pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

Sorry about that... You'll get over it soon.

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰 pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

Good thing you did not marry, embrace being a bachelor today...

You don't expect me to feel pity for you without a complete story. What made both families disapprove of it? I heard of a wedding that was called off due to domestic violence. But the man won't come out to give the reason for canceling the marriage. Rather he will say "my in-laws called off my marriage" bla bla bla. So until I hear the complete story, I feel no pity for you.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Lalami3232:

You don't expect me to feel pity for you without a complete story. What made both families disapprove of it? I heard of a wedding that was called off due to domestic violence. But the man won't come out to give the reason for canceling the marriage. Rather he will say "my in-laws called off my marriage" bla bla bla. So until I hear the complete story, I feel no pity for you.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

You sha wan hear STORY wey go TOUCH ur HEART!
ONLY if e KNEW the GOOD dey jus DONE him, the BVLLET dem help am DODGE.
i wish this was me back in 2018!

Your story is cheap on specifics.

I hope it is not what am thinking, Osu wahala between the people of Biafra/IPOB terrorists...

Ok

Go do thanksgiving for church

You didn't tell us what made the both families not to it... Maybe others would learn form your experience

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰

Pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

You ll be alright...failed wedding is better than failed marriage

I ve seen wedding cancelled on the eve of D day and nobody dies

A good man/woman with bad inlaws is like a good house with bad foundation

why are both families against the union?

Una dey make me fear this marriage stuff...

Elders have seen something.

tell us the full story

What is the reason for the disagreement?

I sense your partner is igbo and you are akwa ibom

Akwa ibom people don't give igbo their person because they end up being used for rituals by igbos.

I know this firsthand while I was in akwa ibom for some while... A lady I dated told me she will never dáte igbo.. I asked why, she said they are ritualist

Mtchewwwwwwwwww
So it all started on your wedding day gangan
Mr, go and sit down jareeeee
Stop disturbing our peace here.

Elders have seen something.
Be calm and your own will not you by.
Keep it up and God in his infinite mercy will do the needs.

Oga Don’t lie, you just want to create a topic Abi ?

All these new age children who thinks they understand life more than their parents
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It was after I lost my parents before I started having sense
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Imagine both parents not ready to bless a union and u think it's nothing
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How did u get to the point of wedding arrangements without first knowing about that...or were just stubborn or unyielding.
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Elders have seen something.
Be calm and your own will not you by.
Keep it up and God in his infinite mercy will do the needs.
Please, be calm and not challenges trail and kill you brother.

Elope na still option. These kinds of unions are the best because both parties will want to shame every naysayer. My friend, japa with your soon to be wife. Go and create magic.

FCmome:
Hello Nairanders , am in severe pain because my wedding was called off, because both Families are against the union, am devastated, i don't know what to do, how to start where to start... I've throw away everything that reminds me of her but i still couldn't get myself to move on.. 😰

Pls if anyone had similar experiences let me know how you deal with it

y are they against the union?

Any cogent reason?
Health?
Tradition?

I am just imagining my parents dictating who to marry, as old as I am🤔🤔

Well I can't say of any girls parent, but my parents have no choice than to accept who I want to marry

immortalcrown:
I don't pity you here. In fact, I believe that you are not being honest here. I believe so because planning a wedding is not the first step to getting married. There are other marriage rites that precede a wedding plan. Did both parents approve of the first marriage rites and suddenly turn against the planned marriage because of the planned wedding? It is either you wanted to start the marriage by attempting to do wedding first and you made the attempt without the consent of both parents or both parents knew about the marriage plan and have been kicking against it but you decided to allow your stupidity to take you far.

Blame yourself for not getting the families' approval for the relationship before going to the extent of planning a wedding.

If you want to obey parents in your marriage, obey them from the beginning, get their permission to start the relationship in the first place. Do not go halfway independently and turn around to dance to their tunes.

If you know that your parents can't decide for you whom you should marry, you can find a partner, plan a wedding with the person and proceed with the marriage even if your parents are not in of the marriage.

Every choice has a consequence. Choose one and face its consequence. Don't try to do A and get B as your result.

You saw it coming, don't you?

There’s more to this story 🫤

Whenever you're ready to say the complete truth story, not halfbaked stories, people will know on how to advice you.

Q

What made both family canceled a concluded wedding?