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Like the topic implies I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and we are about to take it to the next level.

She recently finished her waec while I'm a graduate and served since 2017. I am 15 years older than her

Is the Age gap too much to call it quits?

Nairalanders help me pls

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It's about physical stature, if you don't appear too old than she is, then it's perfect.
After all if it were in the North, 12 years is old enough

Elyonboy:
Like the topic implies I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and we are about to take it to the next level.

She recently finished her waec while I'm a graduate and served since 2017. I am 15 years older than her

Is the Age gap too much to call it quits?

Nairalanders help me pls

are you ready for all the STUFF that lies ahead for a teenage girl going into her 20s?

Don't conplain later oh

The10G:
It's about physical stature, if you don't appear too old than she is, then it's perfect.
After all if it was in the North, 12 years is old enough

She actually looks and behaves very mature for her age in all honesty. That was the attraction in the first place. And i don't look old too. I have a baby face and i don't keep much beards.

The10G:
It's about physical stature, if you don't appear too old than she is, then it's perfect.
After all if it was in the North, 12 years is old enough

and that is all? OK.

AllBlack:


are you ready for all the STUFF that lies ahead for a teenage girl going into her 20s?

Don't conplain later oh

What type of stuffs? Like i said earlier, she is very mature for her age. If you see this girl, you won't believe she's 18. No jokes

At 18 years , she is legally an adult .
So , you are on the right side of the law .
However , if you are looking to settle down and get married , is she the one for you ?
She will have dreams of furthering her education to the tertiary level.
Can you wait ?
Time and tide waits for no one ..

I'm trying to imagine what I can do with a girl who just finished her O levels but then to each his own. Whatever makes u happy bro and u don't need validations here so long as its consensual and by law 18 is old enough so what else do u want?

carl90:
At 18 years , she is legally an adult .
So , you are on the right side of the law .
However , if you are looking to settle down and get married , is she the one for you ?
She will have dreams of furthering her education to the tertiary level.
Can you wait ?
Time and tide waits for no one ..

Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient.

dkidd:
I'm trying to imagine what I can do with a girl who just finished her O levels but then to each his own. Whatever makes u happy bro and u don't need validations here so long as its consensual and by law 18 is old enough so what else do u want?

18 years is old enough and consensual I know, If u understood. I'm referring to the age gap not if it's consensual or not.

I posted it here because i need mixed views. Both Positive and negative before i take the next step.

Does she like you? ? ?



Does she like you? ? ? ? ?



Does she like you? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?


If you think so

What has she done to make you believe she actually likes you?

The age gap is not the issue, its the maturity.

For example, a man of 45 years can marry a woman of 30 years old and no one with see it as abnormal.

So the difference between an 18 years old girl and a 33 years old man is her maturity, and the consent of those who loves her, such as her guardians.

This is the kind of situation where arranged marriage is very important, because the responsibilities of vetting you properly is not something the 18 years old girl is matured or experienced enough to do herself.

With such maturity gap, there is a risk that an irresponsible man will find it easy to manipulate and marry a naive girl who lack the life experience to hold him able on anything, especially when it comes to providing and treating her good.

So if you must marry her, make sure it includes traditional marriage, which will involves all her family , and their participation is an evidence to the approval of your union.

So not just court marriage that involves few people which you can recruit yourself.

AllBlack:


are you ready for all the STUFF that lies ahead for a teenage girl going into her 20s?

Don't conplain later oh

Is the alternative a preferable option?

The point of being the groom is in his grooming of his bride. Because in reality, there is no such thing as an empty mind. Either you lead a mind positively, or the opposite will happen to it.

If he does not guide her from young, a time where the temptation is very high for ladies to mess themselves up, then someone else will do it for him.

And when she has learnt her lesson, done with the mess, then she would have gained ''experience'', and expect him to accept her, with rubbish quotations such as ''my past doesn't matter'', or ''if you cant accept me at my worse, you do not deserve me at my best'' lol.

Sit there and be complaining of her age until one good looking Yahoo boy wey Kuwait woman just pay recently will just come from nowhere and snatch her away from you....Na then your eyes go clear and realize say age is just a fvcking number..

Interesting

You got a girl at the perfect age that you can teach her how to become the type of woman you’d want her to be.
If you don’t succeed at that, the world is gonna teach her and expose her to all the vices teenage girls normally fall for especially if she goes to uni.

Most university girls accumulate at least 3 body counts before they graduate. (Depending on how loose she let herself go, some accumulate at least 6+

But to be frank the age gap is weird. If she was in her early 20s it would have been more better.
Good luck in your endeavors.

Nice !
If both of you are receptive to the possibility of settling down anytime soon ,go for her and do the needful.
Wishing you all the best .

Elyonboy:
Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient

Perfect age to mould the woman you want


Bruh

Elyonboy:
Yes she is the one for me, I just needed other people's opinion on the matter thanks 🙏

About furthering education. That will wait for a while. She is very understanding, cooperative and Obedient

So, since you're sure with all the convictions you have that she's the one for you, why are you then here seeking for validation or second opinion?

If the majority of people here dissuade your motive about the girl, would you go ahead with their opinions?

You seem to have misconstrued life choices at 33.

Does she know you are 33

i’ll be honest with you, dead any feelings you have for that girl. they are emotionally unstable, and very confused set of girls, but if you’re willing to wife and get her pregnant within the next six months, i’ll say go ahead, if you’re looking for long term, just abort mission for your own sanity.

Age gap too far. It's like u dating your younger sister. By the time u r 40,u won't like to see her. She would frustrate u,shez still a youth. Free her. Marry age bracket between 25 to 27 max.

Elyonboy:
She actually looks and behaves very mature for her age in all honesty. That was the attraction in the first place. And i don't look old too. I have a baby face and i don't keep much beards.

Nack and 😌

pansophist:
The age gap is not the issue, its the maturity.

For example, a man of 45 years can marry a woman of 30 years old and no one with see it as abnormal.

So the difference between an 18 years old girl and a 33 years old man is her maturity, and the consent of those who loves her, such as her guardians.

This is the kind of situation where arranged marriage is very important, because the responsibilities of vetting you properly is not something the 18 years old girl is matured or experienced enough to do herself.

With such maturity gap, there is a risk that an irresponsible man will find it easy to manipulate and marry a naive girl who lack the life experience to hold him able on anything, especially when it comes to providing and treating her good.

So if you must marry her, make sure it includes traditional marriage, which will involves all her family , and their participation is an evidence to the approval of your union.

So not just court marriage that involves few people which you can recruit yourself.

nice one depo

I embrace this bro.

Op, the truth is, this won't work out, a girl her age and this Gen Z madness has so messed up with their head that very soon her way of reasoning will throw u off balance, when she finally gets into the university then u will experience shege banza, heart break and all that comes with it, it's no rocket science but, at your age you should be looking or who to settle with and an 18year won't just cut it,

Follow and use your head, not your heart, the rude shock way that girl go use disappoint you go shock u. Go for any girl above 25-28 this ones are mentally ready and matured for marriage,


U go cry tire if u no listen and let her go now, I just clocked 30 this year and I can't even date a 20 years old girl, because I know their sense of reasoning and peer pressure still dey mess with their head, is just to knack and go, when I am ready to settle down, 25-28 is my target, e get why

As long as you take into consideration that her prefrontal cortex hasn't fully developed which means she'll change dramatically when she hits 25 and above. What that means is you won't enjoy the same privileges you'r enjoying now. She could leave you in 7 years time because she'll figure herself out and may not enjoy the life you created for her. I'm against such union because the power dynamic is unhealthy.

There is a high chance of divorce if you marry her at this age, she isn't fully matured, she may resent you later and feel you are not the kind of man she wants when she is older and understands herself better

From the history you gave us, it means you started dating her while she was a minor. I rest my case

I am sure the girl is from a poor struggling family, sighs, because I wonder how any man, be it Elon Musk or Bill Gates of that time would have the guts to come to my house to tell me that he wants to marry my own angelic daughter at 18 years, in fact, if he leaves my house alive that day, it means he came with enough security and juju that overshadowed/overpowered my fury


Please op, allow the young girl complete her tertiary education in case you start misbehaving tomorrow, so she can take care of herself without you.


Every girl child needs financial and academic empowerment, that's my only concern.


Allow her get that needed academic qualification that will position her for financial independence before going into marriage just in case the devil in you rear its ugly head tomorrow and you start maltreating the young, naive, vulnerable girl because you know she can't survive without you.


God please keep me alive so that I can take care of the little angel and the king you put in my care

First give her belle

Jerchance:
Does she know you are 33

Yes she does