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allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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E get some Oluku wey dey call themselves men but na their wives dey operate their bank , their pin and current balance na their wives dey in charge.

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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number 1 no add up. A man duty is to love, a woman is to be submissive.

Both provides and take care of the family.

1 and 7 are completely off

jaxxy:
1 and 7 are completely off

It’s all these secondary school students giving marriage advice. If you follow them, gbese.

That last point is so real even in my life. Earlier this year I was in a terrible financial mess, even my friends turned their backs on me. You would not even believe my wife didn't even help me instead continued nagging about the situation I was in. Can you guys guess who helped me out from that tight financial situation? It was my mother!!!!

Word 👏👏👏

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

Wait! Did OP say those things listed are the mistakes men make in marriages, cos I don't get it.

Quarrel is bad for any relationship. It's Childish and no one talks clearly just emotionally. That's the only wrong aspect. And saying Women like to Quarrel for no apparent reason is wrong because they always have a reason to

Marriage nah scam

Don't show your wife Acct Balance she go finish the money. Don't use the money you would have used to invest to make more money for. If she make use of the money and she break through financial, she go rub shoulder with you. Her family go dey get more say in your home than you the man. Carry the money wey you supposed give her to start business give your sister to start business. If you broke, your sister go gladly wire your Azza. But your wife, her family first before you.

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

Do not mind the poster . Its how they want everyone to behave like them is what I do not understand. Marriage is what you make out of yours'. To some men , there wives' are their besties . To others, they are not . Just do what works for you

Jiola:
The biggest mistake a man can make in marriage us to marry the wrong person. HE IS FINISHED.
Every other thing from there goes downhill

How will you know the wrong person

Smithwilliams826:
number 1 no add up. A man duty is to love, a woman is to be submissive.

Both provides and take care of the family.

Go and read your bible properly before u misquote what u dont know

hope4nigeria:
just give your wife enough money, lobatan

There are wives of billionaires that sleep with security men

Fiscus105:



I subtract nos 7 and add it back as Ur best friend.

Your wife is not only Ur best friend, but Ur number 1 confidant.

Awww eyah. This one don go

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Chai very very true!!!!

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

If she doesn't know it, na wahala for you

Samantha125:
It's totally fine with me if a man wants to keep his balance private because that would mean that I also get to keep mine private as well...

Very balanced and correct view you've given sir.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

the woman wey marry marry well

Edoreborn:
1 & 2 crashed my marriage..I was so good looking then that she was d one that even initiated d romance.. When i finally secured her,,i loose guard..my fitness gone when i started taking all sorts of drinks including ogogoro..lost my physique...Was tall,,dark n very handsome..That people complemented.. i noticed she doesn't introduce me to her friends like before again..To cut d story short,,she called me say she no dey do again oo from another state..

she no serious. Please marry your friend

7arrows:


A Best friend is a best friend a wife is wife. Let there be limit to your conversations. Otherwise will you will talk too much and she will use it against you in a later day.

guy that means you didnt marry a good woman. Just leave the marriage because it is going to crash. Imagine playing mind games with your wife.

AfahaAbia:
That last point is so real even in my life. Earlier this year I was in a terrible financial mess, even my friends turned their backs on me. You would not even believe my wife didn't even help me instead continued nagging about the situation I was in. Can you guys guess who helped me out from that tight financial situation? It was my mother!!!!

you didnt marry a good woman. If you marry a good woman she would not nag you. Although women like to nag when their is a discomfort. However, if she sees you are making efforrt to remedy the situation she would soften

Best friend ko best friend ni,have seen couple who held hands in public,dress in same material kill each other bc of phone call from opposite sex... extreme jealousy.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

It is exhausting leading a woman; women subconsciously and intentionally made themselves difficult to be led.

You can’t probably protect an emotional warrior; it is her survival mode.

OZIOGU1:

Based on my experience in marriage, no one formula can work in marriage, some men can actually practice these rules and the marriage will remain, others will do it may not go well with your partner.

Generally speaking, do what keep peace in your home dazzall.

Very good comment , sometimes when you follow advice of naysayers who are yet to experience marriage you will end up detesting a woman who has shown you unadulterated love.
My wife is not reading my comment and is not here , so I won’t say any bad thing about her so I don’t incur the wrath of God. I’m in America today solely because of her. So why will I follow this God forsaken rules that won’t help me but destroy my beautiful marriage ?

My brother some women with beautiful heart are still out there waiting for a man that will love them comionately . just like how we have some evil men who benefitted more from a woman yet still dump them .

Just like you said do what keep peace in your home .

Rubyjade:
Bro… relax. You're acting like you showed her your bank app and she morphed into Thanos.

1. Not Every Woman is a Villain in a Netflix Drama
Not every woman is sitting there, rubbing her hands together like, “Once I see that last zero… he’s finished.”
Some just want to know if you can split dinner or afford to fix that one squeaky door in your apartment.

2. Financial Disclosure Isn't a Horror Film
You’re acting like telling her your balance is like summoning a demon.
It’s not an exorcism, it’s adulting. If you're dating someone seriously, finances will come up. Eventually, she’s gonna notice that your “savings plan” is just a jar labeled “DO NOT TOUCH (unless emergency snacks).”

3. Plot Twist: A Lot of Women Are Balling
2025 called—they said many women are earning their own bags and don’t need yours.
In fact, some of them are looking at your balance like:

“You know what? We’ll build… together.”
Or worse: “Sir, please leave the table. We don’t split bills under $10.”

4. You Might Just Have Trust Issues, Not Riches
If your has $1,287.43 and you're guarding it like it’s Fort Knox, maybe it's not women you don’t trust—it’s math.
Let’s not act like every woman’s a gold digger when there’s not enough gold to dig.

5. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
If you're always checking if someone’s after your wallet, you might miss someone who was after your heart.
Try attracting people who vibe with your energy—not just your income bracket. Because guess what? If she’s a real one, she’ll roll with you whether you’re ballin’… or budgeting.

In conclusion
Tell her your balance if you want. If she runs—she did you a favor. If she stays—you might’ve just found your MVP. Either way, the right one isn’t looking for the end of your … she’s looking to build with you.

Now go fix your online banking . Not because of her—because you probably forgot it again.

This one just got out of a feminist online conference. Look at her living in lalaland

This is the problem we have in marriages, toxic people talking about marriage,

You just said rubbish in all your point , marriage is an institution created by God, and only the Bible principles can give a better marriage.

Now to your points

1 A man must love to provide reason Bible says husband's love your wives, a man can not provide for a woman he does not love


2 Women do not love conflict only toxiic women without proper marriage knowledge love conflict
3. your wife is your partner but as the man you are the read lead partner

Your wife is your best friend , the very moment you start keeping another best friend outside your wife your marriage will crash

You can have friends but those friends must not be best friends



I can keep typing but my time is not for social media , please do not ever use the points you have here to counsel any married man, you will destroy homes.

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

Nice info.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

Carry yourself commot. ITK. Naso una go dey give advice wey go turn man to beggar for him own house.