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Please I need a piece of advice on how to handle this situation.

I have a very close friend and his wife has asked for financial assistance severally and I obliged. The problem I have here is what will my friend think if he should be seeing a bank alert from me on his wife's phone?

The woman has been calling my line since the beginning of this month which I have continued to ignore. She would later send text asking for financial help and this kind of situation is very confusing because you might report to her husband and they will both turn the whole thing against you.

Please what should I do?

Send the money to her husband.

I would have asked you to send it to the husband, but don't ever try it to avoid causing problems between them, because there's an atom of possibility that her husband isn't aware of her financial request.

Not just that, doing that will leave the husband with no choice than to ponder what and how long you've been chatting with his wife that got to the extent of her demanding for money.


I'll advice you to ask her to let her husband know what she's asking for, so that you can send it through the husband.

You need to stop giving her if she wants to keep it secret. If you must give her, pls let your friend know about it to avoid story that touch

Oblongata:
Send the money to her husband.

Seconded!! Clearly tell her that going forward, she gets any money she requests for through her husband.

Problem is that once a woman forms the habit of begging men for money outside her marriage, not too long afterwards she'll end up in their beds one by one.

So better be careful.

You better block her number. But before you do that, make sure you have enough screenshot of the call logs and sms. incase she wants to turn the table upside down those screenshots will serve as evidence.


If you don't block all channels of communication now between the two of you, the next thing you will come here to post is that you mistakenly slept with your friend's wife after tempting you

alimaa:
Please I need a piece of advice on how to handle this situation. I have a very close friend and his wife has asked for financial assistance severally and I obliged. The problem I have here is what will my friend think if he should be seeing a bank alert from me on his wife's phone? The woman has been calling my line since the beginning of this month which I have continued to ignore. She would later send text asking for financial help and this kind of situation is very confusing because you might report to her husband and they will both turn the whole thing against you. Please what should I do?

Make sure you document her text messages for future reference because your choice of not sending money to her may make her start hating you to the point of eventually ploting for your downfall possibly by lying as most women do that you tried molesting her. BE VERY CAREFUL O!

GraGra247:


Seconded!! Clearly tell her that going forward, she gets any money she requests for through her husband.

Problem is that once a woman forms the habit of begging men for money outside her marriage, not too long afterwards she'll end up in their beds one by one.

So better be careful.

Thanks, this is what I will do.

alimaa:
Please I need a piece of advice on how to handle this situation. I have a very close friend and his wife has asked for financial assistance severally and I obliged. The problem I have here is what will my friend think if he should be seeing a bank alert from me on his wife's phone? The woman has been calling my line since the beginning of this month which I have continued to ignore. She would later send text asking for financial help and this kind of situation is very confusing because you might report to her husband and they will both turn the whole thing against you. Please what should I do?

You have no sense of boundaries. There's no reason why your friends gf talk more of wife should be asking you for money, moreover, Your friend might be in on the whole sham. You put yourself in this situation, Because there's no way you can prove to anyone that you are not sleeping with that woman which I'm suspecting you are doing even if you might not be

Let your friend know and show him the calls. Once he knows, you can go ahead and assist them. Just make sure they don't turn you into an ATM.

send it to who asked and after some days give her advice not to ask again because u will not give her simple

THIS IS HOW THEY START. SOON THEY'LL START SUBMITTING WHEN THE CASH STOPS COMING FREELY.

WHY NOT TALK TO YOUR FRIEND TO FIX HIMSELF IF HE'S BROKE?
IF IT'S A CASE OF GREED FROM THE WIFE'S PART THEN IT MUST BE TACKLED BEFORE SHE DECIDES TO GO PUBLIC, AND SIGN UP ON CODEDRUNS OR INMESSAGE.

I am sorry I dont have! Why is it difficult for you to say no!!! Damn weak people

Tell her youre not comfortable giving her money without her husband's knowledge and tell her to ask him first. And tell her you'll be blocking her number henceforth.

And follow the other advice here about screenshotting the messages in case she tries to get revenge on you by trying any funny tricks.

No need to randomly send your friend money because it will injure his pride. And personally I don't think you need to tell him anything either, it's not really necessary because you don't have anything to confess to the guy.

It's a plan work, the husband is using the wife as a canon folder to extort you.

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS IS HOW THEY START. SOON THEY'LL START SUBMITTING WHEN THE CASH STOPS COMING FREELY.

WHY NOT TALK TO YOUR FRIEND TO FIX HIMSELF IF HE'S BROKE?
IF IT'S A CASE OF GREED FROM THE WIFE'S PART THEN IT MUST BE TACKLED BEFORE SHE DECIDES TO SIGN UP ON CODEDRUNS OR INMESSAGE.

My friend is financially okay

I no get!! ¡!!



Simple

alimaa:

My friend is financially okay

bros if them leave u ba?

u go climb that woman!



if not for your long throat on the woman she wouldn't be asking you for money!



she was aking you for money bc she has seen u hav interest in her.


tell urself the truth.

My dear learn to say NO to people sometimes!! It costs nothing, cos you own no one an Explanation....Na u wear the Shoe

obiekunie2:


bros if them leave u ba?

u go climb that woman!



if not for your long throat on the woman she wouldn't be asking you for money!



she was aking you for money bc she has seen u hav interest in her.


tell urself the truth.

Everyone is not like you

Let her husband know before it gets out of hand and your "generosity" is termed something else..

Larryfest:
Let her husband know before it gets out of hand and your "generosity" is termed something else..

Please put your entire comment in quotes

Be careful!

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS IS HOW THEY START. SOON THEY'LL START SUBMITTING WHEN THE CASH STOPS COMING FREELY.

WHY NOT TALK TO YOUR FRIEND TO FIX HIMSELF IF HE'S BROKE?
IF IT'S A CASE OF GREED FROM THE WIFE'S PART THEN IT MUST BE TACKLED BEFORE SHE DECIDES TO SIGN UP ON CODEDRUNS OR INMESSAGE.

Ooohhhhhhh
Abasiiiiiiiiii mbok

I only assist ppl financially once. Ask me again and I tell u I don't hav. Adopt this approach and u see a big difference in ur dealings with ppl especially Nigerians. I hav com to realize dat Nigerians will continue to ask u for financial favour so long as u keep giving them. Learn how to say "NO" from today and see urself free from unnecessary troubles. I learnt it not too long ago and I bet u, it's one of the biggest lessons of my life.

You obliged severally? Are you the second husband? Why would you give money to another person's wife without her husband's knowledge? Were you really being charitable?

You are already deep in ordure I'm sorry to say.

1. You tell the husband. Now you have to explain the intentions behind your past 'donations'. He is unlikely to believe you or trust you after this.
2. You don't tell, and you continue giving. One day he will see the alert on her phone or the fish brained woman will give the game away herself. The repercurssions will be far worse. He will believe you even less.
3. You stay silent but don't continue giving. She will get mad and accuse you of what you didn't do. God knows what a woman is capable of when she is denied. Again, he will be torn between whom to believe, but the fact that you have been giving her money secretly makes your story suspect. Katakata aplenty here.

In my opinion, the first option of telling her husband immediately is the least dangerous option for you right now because you still have her texts (I hope). Make sure she does not know that you are going to tell him so she can't get her twisted version in first where she will come out smelling like an angel while you would be the devil.

So just show him the text messages and inform him that you have been colluding with his wife to secretly give her sums of money uniquely out of the goodness of your pure heart and not to gain any sexual favours out of her.

I only hope he believes you and remains your friend. Good luck.

no big deal if you send her money but make sure you keep her text message intact



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alimaa:
Please I need a piece of advice on how to handle this situation. I have a very close friend and his wife has asked for financial assistance severally and I obliged. The problem I have here is what will my friend think if he should be seeing a bank alert from me on his wife's phone? The woman has been calling my line since the beginning of this month which I have continued to ignore. She would later send text asking for financial help and this kind of situation is very confusing because you might report to her husband and they will both turn the whole thing against you. Please what should I do?

With friends like you, no one needs enemies.

Oblongata:
Send the money to her husband.

Sharp brain

If she has children, when you visit your friend dash them considerable cash

Dammysmart:
It's a plan work, the husband is using the wife as a canon folder to extort you.

what I thought when I read the story. He may even be the one sending the desperate texts sef. Maybe he’s too shy to ask OP for help. Or he doesn’t want to owe OP.