NewStats: 3,264,689 , 8,184,421 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 04:20 AM 6s1n47

Another Nigerian professional lost.

Gloriagee:
You no put picture to complete the tales by moonlight...

Why do people prefer fake stories to real life issues. This is a true story. Human beings dey ooh!

muyico:
Yeah?
Blood is stronger Dan water
She want d best for her siblings
They suffer together b4 they knw u d kids

These people have their own kids oh! They won't do it for us if the tables were turned

Your father married your mum as a teenager, saw her through school and always provided for her. She gave birth to 5 children, became a teacher while your dad hustled for money. Your mum raised the kids and dad provided.

Over the years, dad became very rich but was not very faithful. Mum lived through the pains of dad's infidelity. Dad established a multi million naira business for mum. Mum soon became a millionaire. Mum acquired assets with loads of money in the bank. Dad remained a big boy.

Mum is on her dying bed and decides to will all of her money and assets to her siblings instead of her kids. Mum's siblings are very willing to take over mum's assets even as they have their own families. You and your siblings are all over 30 years old, though not all independent, but mum believes your dad's stuff is enough for you guys.

Will you accept this? What should dad do? Mum's siblings have hated on dad over the years. Dad's money is more than enough for him shaaa. But will you accept your mum's decision.

If you're almost 40 then your husband's age might be hovering around 40 too. It might be mid life crisis or as a Muslim, he's thinking of taking another wife and is just looking for an excuse.

ghettochild:

This is the scenario most times.

So sad. They make so much money from those applications but don't regard the applicants.

Akano5:


With a Nigerian port, I assume

Of course!!!!

I applied for a US visa from a European country. I can bet money the consular officer stamped denial for me even before I got to his counter. The interview process didn't last up to 2 minutes.

HenryWilliams:
They have a daily, weekly visa quota to utilize..once that quota is filed up .the rest is rejection..
It's a win-win for them
They reject half and keep all the money.
I bet if visa fees are refundable..the rejection rate would be lower

It's all about the money. I'm not sure they really care about who is denied or approved.

If you check well they might not be married, just cohabitating. If that's the case, the guy don buy Igbo market. He will have to marry her in death before anything else.

Ovems:


Please can you mention the name of the school? Was it a boarding school?

I wish I could. I can't for some personal reasons.

Tohsynetita1:

I don’t say it is not possible, even if I say so. It is rare,
Also, which school did you finish from and what year did you do jamb exam?

Forget the name of the school. I've told you it's over 2 decades. It is not a public school and it's only for a very select few. Advertising is also not their thing.

I now reside in a western country. I've applied some of the principles I learnt to my own children and the native English speakers marvel at the vast array of their vocabulary. The difference is that my Nigerian accent remains identifiable while my kids can switch between the Nigerian accent and that of the native speakers.

Tohsynetita1:

I don’t believe, and my point is it’s not easy to English language like other subjects.

I forgot to mention that the mark for English in my school was 60%. With the way we were taught, we didn't waste time studying English for external exams. I wish I could give you more details.

A school where you Must summarize one novel every Saturday. A school where you must write down ten new words with their meanings every day. WAEC and JAMB English was children's food for us.

Tohsynetita1:

I don’t believe, and my point is it’s not easy to English language like other subjects.

It's very easy to English. It all depends on your school's system. You say it's difficult based on how you were taught. My school made it compulsory for everyone to English every term. Then in my school, even if you get As in all subjects and fail English, you failed the term. Fail it for 3 , and you repeat the class.

You don't have to believe me. I won't give you more details for the sake of my identity. It's over 25 years now and I believe the standard remains high there. We were living dictionaries. We read the Oxford dictionary like a textbook. What you think is impossible in your sphere can be quite possible elsewhere. If only you'll believe we were taught even the Greek and Latin origins of English words. English was water for us but we struggled with physics.

Tohsynetita1:

Lol, it’s everywhere, it’s not easy to English language like other subject, I am very sure their will be no 90 to 85 in this year English language jamb result. That’s how it has always been since time immemorial, even if you are an English teacher and you write English language in jamb, I am very sure you may not have 70 percent self.
Do you know the meaning to all words in life?
If you don’t know the meaning, how will you know the opposite in meaning?
Comprehension ages is another problem in jamb, you can use all your time to read ages and if you are to answer questions, you will not even understand what that question is asking.
They are very lucky, jamb question has been reduced, if it’s the era of 100 English language question and others subject are 50 questions, in fact, they may score very less in that English than what they have here.
Opposite in meaning is like 20 questions
Nearest in meaning like 20
Comprehension like 15
like 10
These aspects are very hard to .
Only lexis and structure, Oral that converts the 45 are those you can use laws of concord for. The rest are luck because once you don’t understand the meaning of the words you can’t answer the questions confidently, you will only guess.
Then how many words do you want to know the meaning from millions of English words we have. And the more you cram it the more you forget.
Also, if you aren’t in an English speaking environment, you will never hear some words till you die.
So, leave their teachers alone. That’s how English has always been.

I got 90% in Jamb English during my time. Most of my classmates also had high scores in English but our scores in Physics reduced our total marks. We did not have a reliable physics teacher. Imagine getting a total of 280 in Jamb with a score of 42 in Physics. I believe teachers play a significant role. Get a better English language teacher for those kids up there and you won't recognize their final scores.

I know people who live in very uncomfortable situations but save millions of naira every month. I also know people who spend millions every month to live a comfortable life but have little or no savings. I now wonder, which is more important, quality of life or size of savings?
What is your take?

82k

Crushed on her in 'Ijele'.
Time has really flown.

Faber:
I keep thanking God for my dad, for making it possible for me to have a second port and citizenship of a top tier North American country... Had it been I am only a Nigerian, I would be crying everyday... I have not even renewed my expired Nigerian port.

Look at South Africa playing the big brother role that Nigeria supposed to be involved with. Tinubu and his nepotistic failed regime is busy suspending governor and luring other governors to defect to his party... Without any tangible achievements....

Nigeria una shame dey shame me... 🙆🏿‍♂️

Only very few people find time to appreciate their father. That's the only thing that caught my attention in your writeup.

If you know, then you know. It's only for the initiates to understand.

richeeyo:

Fear those whites
Always looking for lab rats

You know exactly what I'm talking about

Hope it's not poisoned.

Eriokanmi:
E no get wetin Nigerians with chochocho mouth neva talk on top this man mata.
It's easy to accuse men of rape and exonerate women accs 99% of the time.

As a boy, a grown up lady had raped me in the past. I was in primary 2 back then. She just slept by my side under the pretext of playing with me in the night,my mum wasn't with us. She put my thing inside of hers and I felt so irritated. There are several of such cases but men are always the victims.

Irritated?
Na waaa ooh!
I don't know if I should label my childhood experiences as rape, because I totally enjoyed the moments.

Hirsutism

Goldeno:


Let me ask you all, if a gverment official in America were to be suspended for misconduct and the official still self fund them self to an international meeting claiming to represent the country and then in the process deliberately tarnishing America international image, what do you think they will do to such official?

Say they suspend their UN ambassador and she still took herself their and while their try to sabotage their image, do you think Americans will give her a heros welcome?

I think She should be arrested, stripped of all government privileges and access, banned from all government positions, and made to serve jail time. This is a national protocol breach, its even national security breach

She could have easy go on to agree on deals, vote on behalf of the country.

I believe before government officials go outside to represent their country there is always a briefing, what to do, what to say, what position to take on matters, what vote to cast, because they are not their to represent themselves or thei own opinions but that of their country

I wish Nigerians will understand what you just wrote here.

Women and doctors eeh!

alphaNomega:
and nothing sweet oyibo to destroy black families.

dem go package am as domestic abuse and all that sweet nonsense, and our mumu sisters (with fish brain) not fit understand wetin dey happen. He will not be the last.

Moving forward, she is now free to ffuck all those her fine oyibo crush and invest her child money in vibrators and intimacy gadgets. the remaining change she go use am pay for therapist and fund her new boyfriends lifestyle. a Classic tale

Unless she's going into prostitution there's no guarantee of any new meaningful relationship over there.

Housing:


You've really try but please look within. There are that a naturally lazy, yes but for your man not to standup for against external aggression then two things are involved. 1. May be he sees you as the aggressor.

2. Which I think is applicable in your case is lack of honour, hope you haven't destroy his honours before friends and neighbours. Are all your neighbours, friends and associates aware that you are the breadwinner of the family? Haven't you shown to them that you are the head of your family?

You said he refused to manage a building you built very well by not going there to collect rents. If he knows that all the tenants there are aware that you are the owner and equally aware that he is a deadbeat his honour, masculinity and ability to defend his territory will be seriously affected.

Which other proof does anybody need? She has come on nairaland to tear him down with questionable claims of her own excellence. That man is to be pitied because it is obvious he lives daily in the torment of his wife's dishonour. Only VERY STRONG men thrive in the midst of such demonic energy.

ejire042:


Its easy to sit behind a phone and type whatever you like. But life will teach you lessons you will never learn reading a million books. Its easy for you to blindly judge when you have not heard the other side of the story. I just brought another reality to the fore based on my personal experience and not some lame emotions that always beclouds sane judgements. You think the man in question just decided to cruel to his wife? You think the lady from all her story is the only one going through some form of emotional stress? I will not go further than this. These guys might end up working out their differences and live happily ever after.
My own dey my body. I am not perfect, she is not neither. We are a decade in it and committed to keep going.
If you never start your own, God help you!

If you know the guy you are giving a response you will know it is a waste of time. His goal on nairaland is to twist every sensible narrative.

alklas:
Him for don step up since
If u dey put him mouth 4 ur kpekus

I couldn't stop laughing. People are discussing serious matters and you carry kpekus put inside.

ejire042:
I recently came across this post that resonated deeply. I feel compelled to share my perspective, as I've experienced something similar. It seems many women risk losing good men due to their own behavior. They try to control their partners, and if the man isn't financially successful, they perceive him as weak and resort to silent treatment. While it's understandable to have financial security, using money to turn your husband into an errand boy diminishes him. You might even push him to the point where he withdraws, like when he refuses to fight your battles with neighbors, likely because he recognizes you're the source of the conflict.

The real issue isn't your husband; it's you. You need to focus on self-improvement and stop blaming him. He will likely be fine without you, but the same might not be true for you. If you find marriage to him stressful, imagine the alternative: living alone. Would that truly be better?

I can relate to this from the other side. My wife once labeled me lazy and unambitious. I knew my own worth and refused to conform to her expectations just to prove something. I wouldn't take just any job to validate my manhood. I felt like a failure, and she found me less attractive. We were on the verge of collapse when my fortunes changed dramatically. Now, things are completely different. My income far sures hers. My tithe alone is far more than her monthly income. Now she appreciates her husband.

Your husband is likely a good man who simply lacks motivation, perhaps because you control the finances and make all the decisions. Don't give up on him. Stay with him, respect him, and pray for him. He's not the root of your problems.

I don't know you but this your writeup transmits a very peaceful and calming energy.

If your status has changed, then it's time to move out of that area. Don't underestimate the power of envy.